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- WHY DO EVEN SATISFIED NEWLYWEDS EVENTUALLY DIVORCE?
Lavner, Justin A.; Bradbury, Thomas N.
Journal of Family Psychology, Oct 31, 2011

Although divorce typically follows an extended period of unhappiness that
begins early in marriage, some couples who are very happy throughout the
first several years of marriage will also go on to divorce. This study aimed
to identify risk factors early in marriage that distinguish initially
satisfied couples who eventually divorce from those who remain married. We
identified 136 couples reporting stably high levels of relationship
satisfaction in the first 4 years of marriage. We compared the couples who
went on to divorce by the 10-year follow-up with the couples who remained
married on initial measures of commitment, observed communication, stress,
and personality. Divorcing couples displayed more negative communication,
emotion, and social support as newlyweds compared with couples who did not
divorce. No significant differences were found in the other domains, in
relationship satisfaction, or in positive behaviors. Overall, results
indicate that even couples who are very successful at navigating the early
years of marriage can be vulnerable to later dissolution if their
interpersonal exchanges are poorly regulated. We speculate that,
paradoxically, the many strengths possessed by these couples may mask their
potent interpersonal liabilities, posing challenges for educational
interventions designed to help these couples.

http://tinyurl.com/cj2kpg2
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- SIGN OF THE TIMES

Instead of Smart Marriages, there¹s this blog: HookingUpSmart.com.......

Gotta admit I loved the video posted today of the little boys whose mom told
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  But, back to the point.  This blog was created by a mom to try to help her
teen girls navigate in today¹s HookUp world.

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- ANOTHER SIGN OF THE TIMES: RELATIONSHIP STATUS UPDATES

Granted, this is unscientific but still interesting.  Even in these jaded
times and the Hook Up ­ Social Media culture,
75% of respondents still believe there is ONE true soulmate for every
person. 

http://blog.lab42.com/the-relationship-status-update
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- FOUR DECISIONS HEALTHY COUPLES MAKE
Learning to make advance decisions can be one of the best strategies for
protecting your marriage and keeping it a priority.
http://tinyurl.com/763ebz5
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- THE DIRECTORY 
I¹ve been getting emails from folks who are concerned that they missed the
invoice for the 2012 Directory listings.  I¹ve not sent them.  Hope to get
them out this month.  In meantime, it is fine to send me your updated
schedules. So many couples looking for classes in these economic hard times.

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