Depression / Growing Your CMP - 11/5/10

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- When Love Is Challenged By An ³Unwelcome Intruder²
- GROWING YOUR COMMUNITY MARRIAGE INITIATIVE: 12-PART CONFERENCE CALL SERIES

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- When Love Is Challenged By An ³Unwelcome Intruder²
by Diane and Lewis on November 4, 2010

A staggering 19 million Americans are diagnosed with depression every
year.  When one person in the relationship is depressed, the odds of 
divorce occurring are 10 times higher.

We are excited to share what we believe to be a valuable tip.  At the Smart
Marriage Conference in July 2010, we attended a session called  ²Marriage
and Depression: Coping With Depression As A Couple.²  The session leaders,
Dennis Lowe, Ph.D and Emily Scott-Lowe, Ph.D told us that they called the
depression in their marriage the unwelcome intruder.  Why?  By viewing the
depression as an unwelcome intruder, a couple has an easier time uniting  to
meet this external challenge.  They are not angry at each other, they are
angry at the unwelcome intruder in the relationship.

Let¹s say the couple dealing with depression can¹t go out and socialize
anymore. One may angrily say, ³Everything is so different; because of you,
we don¹t see friends anymore!²  If instead, you view the depression as an
unwelcomed intruder, you may hear, ³I am so angry at what depression is
doing to our social life.²

The Lowes asked us to share this tip-it works-and can make a shift in a
couple instantly. So please pass it along to anyone coping with depression
in his or her marriage or relationship.
http://tinyurl.com/376a9c6

Order a CD or download of the recording of Lowe¹s 90-minute Marriage and
Depression workshop at:
http://www.iplaybacksmartmarriages.com/
Or at 800-241-7785 

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- GROWING YOUR COMMUNITY MARRIAGE INITIATIVE: 12-PART CONFERENCE CALL SERIES
To:      Community Marriage Leaders
Fm:     Experienced Marriage Educators
 
Hundreds of community healthy marriage initiatives and individual marriage
educators are struggling as they are underfunded, understaffed, and lacking
a volunteer base needed to reach their potential. Even some HHS grantees
with adequate funding do not have the experience or training to create
community-wide relationship and marriage strengthening campaigns.
 
We are a group of experienced, grassroots marriage educators with the skills
and materials to help you grow your marriage and relationship strengthening
campaigns. Therefore, we are launching a 12-part series of national monthly
conference calls to offer practical suggestions and useful materials to:
 
· Recruit College Interns to multiply your staff
· Develop and Manage a Volunteer Network
· Work with the Faith Community
· Secure Free Media
· Raise Private Funds
· Raise Government Funds
· Work with Opinion Leaders
· Launch Marriage Celebration Events
· Strengthen Strategic Partnerships
· Use Your Website to Raise Funds, Recruit Volunteers, and Fill the
Classroom
· Build stronger ties to Key Government Agencies
· Reach-Out to Minority and Low-Income Populations
 
Who We Are
Chris Gersten is the former Principal Deputy Assistant Secretary,
Administration for Children and Families, Chair of the Fatherhood and
Marriage Leadership Institute (FAMLI) and author of the marriage education
curriculum Lasting Love Skills.
 
Michael McManus is the Co-Founder with his wife Harriet of Marriage Savers,
a ministry which has created Community Marriage Policies in 229 cities in 44
states involving more than 10,000 churches, which has reduced divorce and
cohabitation rates and raised marriage rates.. He also writes a weekly
syndicated newspaper column, ³Ethics & Religion.²
 
Hyepin Im is the Founder of Korean Churches for Community Development, KCCD,
and a Presidential appointee to the Board of Directors of the Corporation
for National and Community Services.
 
Alicia E. La Hoz, Psy. D. is the Director of Family Bridges Program in
Chicago Illinois, one of the large HHS Healthy Marriage grantees and a
leader in the Hispanic marriage education community.
 
Nisa Muhammad is the founder and leader of Black Marriage Day. With Dr.
Rosario Slack, Nisa co-authored the marriage education curriculum Basic
Training for Couples. She is also the director of the WeddedBliss
Foundation.
 
ORIENTATION Calls‹We are holding one orientation call  tonight,
November 5, 7:00 PM EST
 
And another on Wednesday, November 10 , Noon, EST
 
(Please sign up for one of these calls, only)
 
To learn more, join our orientation session by going to www.famli.us
<http://www.famli.us> to register for one of the free calls. You will find a
more detailed outline of the conference call series and a sample letter to
help recruit college interns. Click "Conference Call Series" at the top of
the cover page.
IF YOU HAVE ANY TROUBLE REGISTERING FOR THE CALLS, PLEASE EMAIL CHRIS
GERSTEN AT 
Chrisgersten at gmail.com <mailto:Chrisgersten at gmail.com>  for call-in
information.
 
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