Cohabitation Legislation/Tiger Tangles/Health Buddies - 12/28/09

Mon Dec 28 17:32:26 EST 2009

- H.R. 1107 NATION'S ECONOMIC COHABITATION ACT
- TIGER LINK
- TAKES TWO TO TANGLE
- GREAT LIST OF INSTITUTES
- FIREPROOF GREAT FOR MARRIAGE WEEK EVENTS
- SHELTER FROM THE STORM

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- H.R. 1107 NATION'S ECONOMIC COHABITATION ACT

Nation's Girlfriends Unveil New Economic Plan: 'Let's Move In Together'
A proposal to save hundreds of billions of dollars.

http://tinyurl.com/oqradx

>From The Onion --  at least this shows that cohabitation is on the radar. :)
Scott Stanley and Galena Rhoades will update us on their cohabitation
research in Orlando - amazing new findings.  - diane

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- TIGER LINK

Sorry, I left off the link to the NY Times article where Tiger's father
(divorced from his first wife & 3 kids) said he told his son: ³I¹ve told
Tiger that marriage is unnecessary in a mobile society like ours.²  I'm told
by many of you that you're able to use the Tiger saga in positive ways and
that you need all the citations.  Sorry for the omission, here it is:

http://tinyurl.com/yl5u5ft

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- TAKES TWO TO TANGLE

I've received a dozen commentaries reacting to the Peggy Vaughan piece about
the male infidelity subculture.  I'll let Bob's represent:

> Much has been written about Tiger Woods' escapades, and almost all of it is
> about men and their attitudes that lead to infidelity.  However, as Tiger's
> case demonstrates, for every man worth writing about there are 10-15 women
> that need our scrutiny.  Who are these women who are bold enough to have
> affairs with married men and entertain the fantasy that the guy may some day
> dump his wife in favor of the tramp? They are certainly just as misguided and
> pathetic as the male partner who denies his fidelity to his wife and family. I
> think we are talking about and studying only half of the problem.
> BOB GROSCH
> Redding, CA

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- GREAT LIST OF INSTITUTES

Hello Diane,
I just checked the conference website.  What a great list of institutes!!!! 
The talent and topics for the institutes cannot be found any where else in
the world.  See you in Orlando!!!
Carolyn Rich Curtis, Ph.D.
Executive Director
Healthy Marriage Project
Sacramento, CA 

I agree, the Institute line-up is spectacular this year - lots of new
offerings. 
Institute list here: http://tinyurl.com/qpxxnq
And, wait till you see the workshops and keynotes. :)  - diane

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- FIREPROOF GREAT FOR MARRIAGE WEEK EVENTS

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I see in a stream of notices I've been receiving (like the one above), that
many of you continue to show Fireproof as a foundation for your marriage
ministries.  It's definitely a great launch event, also a great idea for a
Marriage Week evening.   Here's a link a link to get licensed to show
Fireproof at your church: http://tinyurl.com/y97n2xx

Or, here's info if you want to show  "Happily Ever After: A Positive Image
of Black Marriage" film  http://bit.ly/d7CYZ

For Marriage Week ideas - tons of them, see here:
http://www.smartmarriages.com/marriage.week.html#suggestions

Send your Marriage Week events/notices/ideas here and I'll get them posted
here
http://www.smartmarriages.com/marriage.week.html#national

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- SHELTER FROM THE STORM

This study validates this workshop that will be offered by Jon Carlson &
Hank Sibbing in Orlando:

> Through Sickness
> Illness can strike any time, but as we age sickness increases and marriage
> becomes less about fun and romance and more about survival and coping.  Learn
> crucial deep love practices to help couples deal with these life changes.

Couples Are Better Able to Cope With Health Shocks Than Singles, Study Finds
ScienceDaily (Dec. 28, 2009) ‹ Marital status plays a significant role in
how individuals cope economically with disability and health shocks,
according to a working paper by University of British Columbia economists
Giovanni Gallipoli and Laura Turner.

In their study, titled "Household Responses to Individual Shocks: Disability
and Labour Supply," the researchers examined data from the Canadian Survey
of Labour and Income Dynamics (SLID) and found that in marriages,
"main-earners" (typically husbands) tend to transfer income and compensate
"second-earners" (typically wives). The second-earners, in turn, provide
conditional time and care in periods of need (such as illness and disability
of main-earner).

The insurance the second-earner provides to the main-earner in the marital
contract serves as an important mechanism to help smooth out household
income in periods of health and disability shocks to the main-earner; and as
a way to support the future earning potential of the main-earner, according
to Gallipoli, a UBC economics professor and Turner, now an assistant
professor at the University of Toronto. Both Gallipoli and Turner are
members of the Canadian Labour Market and Skills Researcher Network.

The researchers also find that the relative value of marriage changes in
different ways for men and women as they age.

Men who receive bad shocks early in life may lose the insurance offered by
marriage by being sorted out of possible matches in the early stages,
according to the study. Marriages become more stable the longer the couple
is together, and uncertainty is resolved. The long-term costs associated to
health shocks are particularly high for main-earners in the early stages of
their working life, because they imply a permanent loss of human capital and
earning potential.

Other findings include:
* "Low-risk" marriages, where the main-earner is in a low-risk health state,
are more stable and encounter less renegotiation and termination of marital
contracts at every stage of the life-cycle.
* Men who are at high risk of receiving health and disability shocks value
marriage early in life, when they are poor in both assets and work
experience. As these husbands age, their gains from marriage decrease as
"buffer stocks" of human capital and assets are accumulated and they become
more likely to trigger a renegotiation of the marital contract. These later
renegotiations are referred to by the authors as a "midlife crisis."
* All men value marriage at the late stages of their working life as they
approach retirement, and the end of their main-earner status, as well as
during periods of high health risk.

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