Urgent for Mike & Juliet Show/ I've Got Marriage on My Mind in Massachusetts - 3/26/07

Wed Mar 26 15:32:01 EDT 2008

- PLEASE HELP: URGENT MIKE AND JULIET MONOGAMY SHOW TOMORROW
- AND SET YOUR TIVO TO CATCH THE SHOW
- I'VE GOT MARRIAGE ON MY MIND

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- PLEASE HELP: URGENT MIKE AND JULIET MONOGAMY SHOW TOMORROW

Very little lead time, but we like the Mike and Juliet Show - they do
a good job and have a good marriage message.

TOMORROW THURS MARY 27 IN NEW YORK CITY they're doing a show on whether or
not Monogamy is even possible -- or just a big myth.

They've got their expert who is going to say it's possible (Scott Haltzman
speaking from Happily Married Men/Women surveys).

But they've also got an expert that says it's OK for people to look outside
of marriage for sex and a husband who frequents sex-for-pay with the consent
of his wife "for the sake of keeping the marriage intact".

They want a female to go on whose husband has had sex outside marriage who
says it is NOT OK.  (Not another expert UNLESS she'll say her husband's
affair/outside sex was NOT good for their marriage).

If you know a feisty female who would be a good spokesperson for the
importance of marital fidelity who has HAD this experience (divorced or
patched it up) who can appear tomorrow morning in NY CITY, please call the
show immediately - 212-301-5256.

This is a message with which we'd like to help.

AND SET YOUR TIVO TO CATCH THE SHOW.  The Mike and Juliet Show is on Fox and
airs live in DC and NYC at 9am EST.  But it's syndicated around the country
so you need to check the website for local listings:
http://www.mandjshow.com

And, you can see Scott Haltzman live and in person at two different sessions
in San Francisco. 

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- I'VE GOT MARRIAGE ON MY MIND

The Boston Globe
I've got marriage on my mind
By Steve Bailey
Globe Columnist / March 26, 2008

> No one, though, talks about marriage, or the lack of it - an underappreciated
> key in separating the haves and have-nots in our society. . . .

> Kay S. Hymowitz, author of "Marriage and Caste in America," believes that
> marriage now poses an even larger social divide than race.

> Massachusetts should become the state for marriage.......

If Virginia is for lovers, Massachusetts should become the state for
marriage.

What is it that makes this seem like such a provocative proposition? It
should not be.

In the presidential contest, as in almost every presidential contest, the
economy has emerged as the dominant issue. Foreclosures are soaring. So are
gas prices. The dollar is falling. Do we bail out Wall Street? And if so,
what should we require in exchange?

No one, though, talks about marriage, or the lack of it - an
underappreciated key in separating the haves and have-nots in our society.

Northeastern University economist Andrew Sum notes that we have reached this
disturbing benchmark: In 2006, for the first time in US history, half of all
births to women under 30 were out of wedlock. For a little context,
consider: That number was a mere 6 percent in 1960. "A silent time bomb,"
Sum calls it.

This constant ratcheting up of children out of wedlock doesn't make
headlines in the same way that the foreclosure crisis does, or the meltdown
on Wall Street. But unlike market cycles that come and go, the fragmentation
of the family is a decades-long disaster that has done as much to further
economic inequality and create two Americas as anything.

Kay S. Hymowitz, author of "Marriage and Caste in America," believes that
marriage now poses an even larger social divide than race.

"We are becoming a nation of separate and unequal families that threatens to
last into the foreseeable future," Hymowitz writes. "On the one hand,
well-educated women make more money. They get married, only then have their
children, and raise them with their husbands. Those children are more likely
to grow up to be well-adjusted, to do well in school, to go to college, to
marry, and only then have children.

"On the other hand, we have low-income women raising children alone, who are
more likely to be low-income, to drop out of school, or, if they do make it
to college, go to a less elite college, and become single parents
themselves."

Andy Sum has spent years documenting rising inequality in America and has
come to believe that what has happened to families is at the heart of it.
What the numbers show, he says, is increasing single-parenthood, limited
earnings among single moms, declining earnings and rate of marriage among
men with no post-secondary schooling, and the tendency for college-educated
young adults to marry one another, what the sociologists call "assortative
mating." MBAs marry MBAs; nobody is interested in rescuing Cinderella any
more.

The result: The economic divide has become a canyon. In 2006, young families
with children in the top quintile of income distribution had a mean income
of nearly $88,000 versus a mean of only $5,200 for those in the bottom 20
percent, a relative difference of 17 times.

Says Sum: "These demographic developments are creating a future nightmare
for the country. Inequality will continue to accelerate and society will
continue to fragment in the absence of a major reversal in young married
couple formation."

Not every marriage will work; this I know myself. But in general, marriage
is good - for families and for the country. Massachusetts has always prided
itself on being a leader. We pioneered gay marriage, a good thing. What if
we became a national leader in promoting and strengthening marriage? What's
so provocative about that?

http://www.boston.com/business/articles/2008/03/26/ive_got_marriage_on_my_mi
nd/

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