The "I don't know how" excuse - 4/4/08

Fri Apr 4 17:45:39 EDT 2008

- THE "I DON'T KNOW HOW" EXCUSE

Clearly it's more of a challenge to know how to "do marriage" if you don't
grow up in a married household.  BUT we in the marriage education movement
need to be sure we do not promote and endorse and give credibility to this
excuse.  We need to, as Rozario Slack did so eloquently in his *Message to
Our Sons* keynote, call men to step up and declare that they are going to
learn how to do marriage and become models for their son and break this
devastating cycle. That they are going to from this day forward create a new
legacy. Instead of "I don't know how" say "I'm going to learn how." We can
give Combs the benefit of the doubt and hope that he was misquoted. And we
can get information to him about how to take a class, find a marriage mentor
- and to help use his power and position to get this information to others
and to lead the way. What would Dr King say?
- diane  

Diddy: 'I don't know how marriage works'
03/04/2008 
breakingnews.iol.ie

Sean 'Diddy' Combs can never see himself settling down - because he lacked
good married role models when he was young.

The Bad Boy Records boss has dated a string of beauties throughout his
meteoric career - including Jennifer Lopez and model/actress Kim Porter, and
had rumoured flings with Sienna Miller and Cameron Diaz.

But the father of six doesn't understand the ethics of married life and
blames his single-parent upbringing with mum Janice, who was left to raise
two kids after Combs' father Melvin was shot dead in New York.

He says: "I don't know how marriage works. If you're raised by a married
couple, you see how they interact; their good days, their bad days, how they
work through things - you see the love.

"I wasn't brought up like that and I still don't know to do it. I never saw
(my parents') relationship up-close, so every time I've been in a
relationship I haven't known what to do and that's really scared me."

The hip-hop star broke off his relationship with Porter just months after
she gave birth to their twin daughters Jessie James and D'Lila Star in
December 2006.
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> #756 P-2 
> Message to Our Sons
> Rozario Slack, DMin
> Today's young men need their fathers and their elders to step up to the plate
> and tell them the truth.  They need their fathers and elders to stop standing
> silently by and letting them continue to make critical mistakes.  Men must
> tell their sons, nephews, friends, and brothers that it takes a real man to
> create a high-quality, life-long marriage and family.  That there is no
> greater or more manly accomplishment. Old men must teach young men that
> marriage is the glue, the crucial factor if we are to save the village.  This
> is what men must do. Yes we can.
> 

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