Telecourse | My Child's Divorce | Directory Updates | Grant Writing | MISSISSIPPI - 9/6/07

Thu Sep 6 16:50:27 EDT 2007

- HOW TO IMPROVE YOUR MARRIAGE WITHOUT TALKING ABOUT IT: TELECOURSE
- MY CHILD'S DIVORCE IS MY PAIN
- DIRECTORY UPDATES: NYC
- $35 GRANT WRITING 101 WORKSHOP IN DETROIT
- MISSISSIPPI MARRIAGE WEEK?

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- HOW TO IMPROVE YOUR MARRIAGE WITHOUT TALKING ABOUT IT: TELECOURSE

Pat Love and Steven Stosny, keynote speakers at the Denver Smart Marriages
Conference, got very high marks with many of you saying you wished they had
more time. Here's your chance for additional training: a one-time, six-week
telecourse on their model and book: How
to Improve Your Marriage without Talking about It: Finding Love beyond
Words: Sept 11- Oct 16, six Tuesdays at 7 pm EDT. The sessions will feature
a half-hour presentation by Drs. Love and Stosny and a half hour of
questions from participants. Perfect to improve your own marriage or help
couples improve theirs (or your to give to your grown child - see next
post). 

Topics will include:
      Why we fight
      The Silent Male: What he¹s thinking and feeling
      The worst thing a woman does to a man
      The worst thing a man does to a woman
      Forget feelings, think motivation
      The only connection skill you need.

Register at 
http://compassionpower.com/Marriage%20HowtoImproveworkshop.php

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- MY CHILD'S DIVORCE IS MY PAIN
By MIREYA NAVARRO
The New York Times, Sunday Style
Sept 2, 2007 
Parents put their lives on hold, and dig deep into their pockets.

Read this if you need inspiration for coughing up a few hundred dollars for
your adult kids to take a marriage ed course.  This article which includes
quotes from Andrew Cherlin and Josh Coleman lays out the emotional, physical
and financial cost to grandparents when adult kids divorce.

> . . .when children divorce, their parents¹ lives are often dramatically
> changed, an impact that is receiving increasing attention in books, Internet
> forums and in the courts, where some grandparents find themselves when
> custodial battles cut them off from grandchildren.
> 
> Parents of divorcing children may find themselves incurring debt to help their
> children financially, or putting plans to travel, play golf and simply enjoy
> their families on hold. Or their lives are turned upside down when a son or
> daughter needs to move back home, or when they find themselves without
> recourse when their grandchildren are torn from them in custody battles.
> 
> Ms. Chadwick said she and her second husband took out ³a sizable² home equity
> loan that enabled her middle daughter and her two children to keep their
> house. The loan, which the daughter is slowly repaying, ³cut into us a lot,²
> Ms. Chadwick said.
> 
> Some of the older couple¹s plans, such as a home renovation, have been
> deferred, but Ms. Chadwick said she appreciated being able to help her family.
> 
> Less affluent parents, some grandparent advocacy groups note, are sometimes
> forced to take a job to help pay for their children¹s divorce-related costs or
> struggle for ways to represent themselves in court to fight to see their
> grandchildren. . . .

>  Some family therapists say that many parents feel guilt if they had their own
> divorces, or wonder if they somehow made mistakes in raising their children.
> ³They may experience some feelings of culpability if they believe that their
> parenting didn¹t adequately prepare their child for long-term relationships,
> or if they believe that their own marriage served as a poor role model,² said
> Joshua Coleman, a psychologist in private practice in the San Francisco Bay
> Area.
> 
For the full article:
http://tinyurl.com/2r8jvn
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- DIRECTORY UPDATES: NYC
> Diane, 
> Hope you can post my new workshop dates on the Directory.  I thought you said
> with the new website there would be a way for us to do our own updates but
> don't want to wait until we hear from you about HOW to do this. I tried but
> can't figure it out.  I'm offering the Passage to Intimacy weekend Oct 20-21
> and hate to bother you, but hope you can get this posted as soon as possible.
> Carolyn 
> 
I'll get your new dates posted right away.  And, I'll copy this to the list
in case anyone else is waiting for an email from me about how to update
their listing.  We do expect that eventually you will be able to edit your
Directory listings yourself and I did tell a lot of you at the conference
that that feature was coming.....but everything takes time and fine tuning.
(The web designer is in Thailand on his honeymoon until Sept 30th. It was a
beautiful wedding!)  In the meantime, email me any new class dates and I'll
get them posted.  Couples are definitely looking for
courses/classes/training events.  Like this one by Carolyn Perla in New York
City posted at:  http://www.smartmarriages.com/directory_browse.html

> PAIRS in New York City!
> Carolyn Perla, PhD
> Passage to Intimacy Weekend workshops.
> $600 per couple, Carolyn Perla, PhD,
> Oct 20-21, NYC
> Email: mailto:Cperla8 at aol.com
> Phone: 212-769-1837

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- $35 GRANT WRITING 101 WORKSHOP IN DETROIT

This beginner¹s guide to writing grants will help you to develop and write
an effective proposal. It will provide a basic overview and review of the
grant writing process along with a step-by-step plan for developing a
successful grant application. This course will help you to start with an
idea, plan ahead, and seek appropriate funding sources to meet your needs.
Volunteers, Board members, staff from faith and community-based
organizations and interested professionals are welcome.

Sept 8, 2007, 11am to 1:30 pm $35/per person. Register at
<http://www.lifefam.org>

For more information: 313-342-0006 or lifefam2001 at aol.com

The Learning Institute of Family Education is a nonprofit 501c3 organization
specializing in programs to strengthen families for the well being of
children.

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- MISSISSIPPI MARRIAGE WEEK?

> Hi Diane,
> I am the new Family Education and Policy Specialist at Mississippi State
> University, working for extension. I am starting some healthy marriage
> projects (i.e., Healthy Marriage Week in February). Could you invite any
> Mississipians who might be interested to contact me.
> Tabitha Staier
> tstaier at ext.msstate.edu
> 662-325-0594

I hope you're ALL starting to work on your plans for Marriage Week. For
ideas, see: http://www.smartmarriages.com/marriage.week.html
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