For Years | Replicability | Thoughts from a soon-to-be-Ex | Trees | Feb 30th - 11/17/07

Sat Nov 17 18:06:30 EST 2007

- THEM LITTLE YELLOW POSTCARDS
- YES, BUT IS IT REPLICABLE?
- "FOR YEARS": THOUGHTS FROM A SOON-TO-BE EX-HUSBAND
- FOR THE FUTURE OF OUR CHILDREN AND GRANDCHILDREN: CATALOGCHOICE.ORG
- OK, OK, THERE IS NO FEB 30TH
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- THEM LITTLE YELLOW POSTCARDS
> Hi, 
> I received a yellow postcard advertising the conference in the mail. Just want
> to let you know that even in the age of the internet, getting something via US
> Mail is the best way to get my attention and keep my attention, because it
> resides on my kitchen counter until I read it. Please do send me a brochure at
> address below.   
> Norm in Hawaii 

REMINDER: If you'd like a batch of postcards to distribute in your community
just let me know. I printed a bunch of extras.  They're so nicely portable.

REMINDER 2: If your program/classes are not listed on the Directory, please
get listed. We're getting frustrated requests from visitors to the site that
can't find a class near them. The Directory is the #1 page visited on the
website (#2 is cohabitation!?) and we're getting so many hits that we
crashed again yesterday.  I just increased our MB's again today and am
definitely not complaining - crashing is a good thing.  Take advantage of
the "marriage education" search traffic.  How to list:
http://www.smartmarriages.com/directorylisting.html  - diane

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- YES, BUT IS IT REPLICABLE?

Seven Activities for Enhancing the Replicability of Evidence-Based
Practices, October 2007

This brief from Child Trends reviews characteristics for replicating
effective practices for enhancing service delivery. Program replication is
often crucial to implementing the most appropriate services for special
populations. The key for program reproduction includes learning core
intervention components and core implementation components.

For more information, please see:
http://www.childtrends.org/Files//Child_Trends-2007_10_01_RB_Replicability.p
df 

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- "FOR YEARS": THOUGHTS FROM A SOON-TO-BE EX-HUSBAND

Diane, 
I found the following letter on Dr. Laura¹s blog today.
Janice Nikkel
http://www.marriageuncensored.com/

> Thoughts From a Soon-To-Be Ex-Husband
> November 16, 2007 on 12:00 am | In Marriage
> 
> I got this eloquent email recently, and wanted to share it with all of you, as
> it addresses the consequences of some behaviors that often come up from
> callers to my radio show:
> 
> ³Two months ago, I left my wife and children and moved into a condo about a
> mile from our home.  This morning, I was moved to write the following, just to
> help me vent my frustration over the treatment from my wife that led to this
> painful and damaging decision, called ³For Years:²
> 
> For years, you behaved as if it didn¹t matter whether I came or went, so I
> went.
> 
> For years, you were unsatisfied with the income I brought in, even though it
> was way more than enough to allow you to stay home with the children. Now you
> have less, and you get to go to work.
> 
> For years, you behaved as if my touch meant nothing to you. Now, it¹s gone.
> 
> For years, you never complimented me on the household repairs I made, keeping
> up the lawn and garden, cleaning and organizing the garage and the hundreds of
> things I did to keep our home balanced and running. Now, you can do them.
> 
> For years, you complained I didn¹t do enough housework.  Now it¹s all yours.
> 
> For years, you chose not to attend community and social events that were
> important to me.  Now they¹re not an option.
> 
> For years, you expected me to read your mind when you were hurt or upset.
> Never could, never will.
> 
> For years, you punished me with your silence.  Now you have plenty.
> 
> For years, you would not share information about our kids¹ schedules, doctor¹s
> appointments and so on.  Now some attorneys will help you polish your
> communication skills.
> 
> For years, I chose to love you, protect you, provide for you, confide in you,
> and have fun with you.  Now, I don¹t.
> 
> For years, you behaved as a long-suffering martyr.  Now you can be one.
> 
> For years, I chose to raise your son as my own.  Now, he¹s hurting.
> 
> For years, you treated me as the lesser parent.  Now I am.
> 
> For years, our precious young daughter has watched this debacle. What do you
> think she¹s learned?
> 
> For yearsŠ.
> 
> P.S. I bought and read ³The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage² months ago,
> and asked my wife to read it with me.  She laughed.²
> 
> (Signed)
> Still My Kids¹ Dad
> in Southern California
> 
> www.drlaura.com/blog/

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- FOR THE FUTURE OF OUR CHILDREN AND GRANDCHILDREN: CATALOGCHOICE.ORG

> Diane, I know this isn't about marriage but it's about family, about saving
> the planet for our children. Over the past few years I've become increasingly
> troubled by the environmental catastrophe that is the retail catalog industry.
> I SHUDDER to think of the number of unwanted catalogs we receive at our home
> (and office), multiplied by the millions of households just like ours.
> Calling each retailer to cancel your "subscription" is a somewhat painfully
> slow and tedious process. And, it's one of those things we mean to do but
> rarely find time for.
>  
> Good news: The Ecology Center is sponsoring a new website,
> http://www.catalogchoice.org. It is a completely FREE service that does all
> the work for you - just register with your name and address, and start
> selecting catalogs to drop from a list on the site. If you don't see an
> offending catalog listed, you can suggest they add it.
>  
> I'm hoping that you will find this important enough to share with your list
> and I hope many on your list will forward it to their own lists.  See you in
> California - home of the mighty redwoods!!  - GS
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- OK, OK, THERE IS NO FEB 30TH

Several of you have reminded me that there is no Feb 30th.  I said
applicants would be notified about whether or not you were accepted to
present in San Francisco by Feb 30th. It's even on the application.  Proving
once again that I was once a natural blonde. - diane

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