Whose Got Time? | Taking Space | 20-Something Viewpoint - 5/25/07

Fri May 25 14:00:47 EDT 2007

- WHOSE GOT TIME? 
- WHAT TIME DOES IT START?
- TAKING SPACE 
- 20-SOMETHING "BRAZEN CAREERIST" BLOGS ON MARRIAGE

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- WHOSE GOT TIME? 

Making Time For Each Other, Can The Ryans Do It?
May 22, 2007 

Watch a segment from WCCO TV in Minneapolis that features Bill Doherty on
Intentional-Marriage and Take-Back-Your-Time themes.  To watch, click on the
first small video screen above the large video screen top right. Also, if
you want an excellent free tutorial on how to do marriage-friendly therapy
with a time-famished couple, click on the next window and watch Doherty in a
masterful session - joining with the couple, outflanking the time demons,
helping them get creative and intentional. - diane

http://wcco.com/topstories/local_story_142220727.html

Bill will present twice in Denver - a full-day training on Marriage Friendly
Therapy and the Sat morning keynote with daughter Elizabeth on their new
program, The First Dance.

> The First Dance Keynote - Sat, 8:30am, June 30, Denver
> Bill Doherty, PhD, Elizabeth Doherty Thomas
> Learn how to bridge the immediacy of wedding planning with lessons
> for life-long marriage.  Winner of a 2007 Modern Bride Trendsetter
> Award, this full service program helps couples and their parents navigate
> the complex and often conflicted family dynamics that surface in wedding
> planning.

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AND, TO ANSWER A QUESTION MANY ARE ASKING, YOU DO NOT REGISTER FOR KEYNOTES.
THERE IS NO PLACE TO DO THAT ON THE REG FORM BECAUSE THERE IS NO NEED TO DO
THAT.  KEYNOTES ARE AUTOMATICALLY INCLUDED.  ALL 2,000+ OF US WILL BE IN ALL
THE KEYNOTES.  YOU DO HAVE TO REGISTER FOR BANQUETS - THOSE ARE EXTRA. OR,
TO BRING GUESTS TO THE TONY ROBBINS/CLOE MADANES KEYNOTE.  EXCUSE ME FOR
SHOUTING.  - diane 

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- WHAT TIME DOES IT START?
>> I wanted to know if you could tell me what time the conference actually
>> starts and ends.  - CS

> IF you are ONLY attending the general conference (no pre or post conference
> training Institutes) and you are not attending the Sunday night Pat
> Love/Steven Stosny banquet, THEN the conference starts at 6:30pm Thurs June 28
> and ends Sun, July 1 at 4:30pm.  - diane

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- TAKING SPACE 

Taking Space, How to Use Separation to Explore the Future of Your
Relationship was awarded a bronze medal by Independent Publisher Book Awards
in category of relationships/sexuality.  Author, Bob Buchicchio will present
his divorce prevention model and will exhibit in Denver. Check it out.

> 711 - Sunday, July 1, Denver Smart Marriages
> Taking Space
> Robert Buchicchio, MSW
> This 10-step guide provides rules and structure for marital separations
> (physical or emotional) to help couples resolve impasses and make better
> decisions. Plus a Relationship Commitment scale.

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- 20-SOMETHING "BRAZEN CAREERIST" BLOGS ON MARRIAGE

> Hey Diane!
> Here is a marriage-friendly article posted on the "Brazen Careerist" blog. The
> author give twentysomethings and those trying to figure out their careers
> excellent advice. She has a great blog that I read more than any other. Hope
> you are encouraged!!
> Andrea Lee
> Marriage CoMission

I AM encouraged to find wisdom like this on a "twenty-something blog".
(And, curious.  How do people find and decide which blogs to read when there
are so many of them!?)   This blogger is wise beyond her years as she lays
out the logic. - diane

Here are some clips if you don't have time to read the full article:

> Second, when a woman stays at home the marriage is more likely to stay intact,
> and when a marriage stays intact, the kids do better. So you can argue forever
> that a stay-at-home parent (male or female) loses something by not going to
> work, but clearly their family gains something, so if women want to stop
> working for a while, fine. Why get all up in arms about it?
> 
> The problem is when there is a divorce. Divorce doesn¹t just hurt stay-at-home
> parents, who have to go back to work after being out of the workforce for
> years. It hurts breadwinners, who, because of child support issues are very
> limited in the career moves they can make. But most of all, divorce hurts
> kids.
> 
> Divorced parents routinely walk around saying that their kids are doing fine
> and that their kids are better off because the parents are happier. However
> there is little evidence to generally support either of these claims. Both are
> very psychological and complicated and parents are hardly good judges of their
> own case since they have already made the decision and want to feel it was not
> selfish and terrible to do to their kids.
> 
> Here is what there is research to support: Even amicable divorces do permanent
> damage to kids, yet the media practically ignored this evidence when it came
> out. Kids with divorced parents do worse in school, and this research is
> independent of socioeconomic status, and it gets worse if a parent remarries.
> Also, if you get divorced, you make your child almost 50% more likely to get a
> divorce.
> 
> So here¹s what we know for sure, today: Women who work have a higher chance of
> having a divorce, and women who stay at home are very vulnerable in the case
> of a divorce.
> 
> Here¹s what we should do with this information: Start talking about how to
> keep a marriage together. Making marriage last is a workplace issue because
> work factors play such a very large role in the equation. Work needs to help
> us to keep marriages together instead of hurt it. And advice about work needs
> to focus on improving marriage rather than preparing for divorce.

> Here's the link: 
> http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/05/14/new-agenda-for-workplace-activism-kee
> p-marriages-together/

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