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- ARCHIVE ADDRESS
- LINKS
- POSTER SESSIONS AT SMART MARRIAGES CONFERENCE
- EXHIBITS - THE HEART OF THE SMART MARRIAGES CONFERENCE
- TONY ROBBINS/CLOE MADANES 'ULTIMATE RELATIONSHIP' TICKETS
- FREE ACF WELFARE RESEARCH/EVALUATION CONFERENCE: WASH DC JUNE 4-6
- PRESIDENTIAL RACE PUTS MARRIAGE ON THE FRONT BURNER

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- ARCHIVE ADDRESS

> Hi Diane! 
> I'm glad you posted about the archive. I've been trying to find the statistic
> regarding the number of people who have been married, then divorced, will
> marry again. I know the figure is high (75-90%) but wanted to be able to cite
> a source. I also know I've seen this stat through your list before.
> 
> However, each time I've attempted to go to
> http://archives.his.com/smartmarriages/ recently I receive a "Cannot
> find server" message. Has anyone else had this trouble?
> Dr. Russell Elleven

My bad.  I included the url address for the "Mexican" wives post but failed
to include the address for the ARCHIVE, itself:
http://lists101.his.com/pipermail/smartmarriages/

Sorry that the url keeps changing!  My server is trying to keep up with the
volume and has had to upgrade to tougher server/software.

I think you're asking how many people have a third marriage?  Right? Let me
know if you find it, I'd join the search but too busy!
- diane   

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- LINKS: HOW TO 

If a url is so long that it is on more than one line, it often does not work
to just click on the link.  You must copy the entire link and then paste it
into the address line.  I've received dozens of emails complaining that the
eHarmony link I sent last night doesn't work.  It is three lines long and it
DOES work if you copy it and paste it into the address line.  - diane

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- POSTER SESSIONS AT SMART MARRIAGES CONFERENCE
I've had requests about submitting a poster session.  There is still time.
We've got some very exciting Poster Sessions this year but there is room for
more.  Application: http://www.smartmarriages.com/abstract.poster.html

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- EXHIBITS - THE HEART OF THE SMART MARRIAGES CONFERENCE
For an exhibit application: http://www.smartmarriages.com/exhibits.html

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- TONY ROBBINS/CLOE MADANES 'ULTIMATE RELATIONSHIP' TICKETS
> Diane, 
> Last night was the first time I found time to look at the 2007 Smart Marriages
> Conference Brochure.  Each year I think it can't get any better, and each year
> you amaze me. The program is extraordinary! My question: I have dear friends
> in Boulder and I'd like to bring them to the Saturday night event presented by
> Anthony Robbins and Cloe Madanes and to the Sunday night banquet featuring Pat
> Love.  I see how to add guest tickets for the banquet, but not for the Sat
> night event. Can you help me or tell me whom to call?
> Sylvia 

Sorry, but the Sat night event is open only to conference attendees.
However, your friends don't have to purchase a full conference ticket, can
purchase a Saturday-only day registration.  I guarantee they'd enjoy the
entire day which starts with keynotes by Michele Weiner-Davis and Bill
Doherty, includes a keynote lunch by John Gray on his latest book
"Mars/Venus Collide", and ends with the Robbins/Madanes Sat night live.
Plus they can attend two 90-min workshops - with 40 from which to choose
(see the 400 and 500 series at: http://www.smartmarriages.com/workshops.html
)  Register for one day or whole conference at:
http://gotomylist.com/cme/smc05/smc07rf2.cfm

And/or, they can see what's open to locals including "free stuff" at:
http://www.smartmarriages.com/doorstep.html
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- FREE ACF WELFARE RESEARCH/EVALUATION CONFERENCE: WASH DC JUNE 4-6

Network with your peers about what is being learned from the most recent
welfare, self-sufficiency, families and marriage research initiatives and
implications for guiding program policy and practice.Registration required.
In April information regarding registration and hotel reservations will be
available at: (http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/opre//wrconference/index.html
<http://pull.xmr3.com/p/132-AC0D/82976345/clickto1_grams-opre-wrconference-i
ndex.html> ). The agenda will be available at a later date.

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- PRESIDENTIAL RACE PUTS MARRIAGE ON THE FRONT BURNER

The current "presidential marriage politics" provide a wonderful opportunity
to write for your local newspaper - a great starting point to weave in all
kinds of marriage education solutions/suggestions. Send me anything that
gets published. - diane

Integrity is already clear-cut winner
Orlando Sentinel 
Sheryl P. Kurland
Special to the Sentinel
March 28, 2007

It's not about who's a Democrat or Republican. Or foreign policy. Or
abortion. Or gun control.

Americans are sick and tired of being embarrassed by the lustful escapades
of our leaders at their every twist and turn. We long for a role model, a
chief of our country with no "Monicas" in the closet. Snicker, snicker,
snicker.

John Edwards, married 30 years to his first and only wife, may be our man.
Following the diagnosis of his wife Elizabeth's return of cancer, the couple
jointly decided he should continue to run for election. The Edwardses held a
joint press conference to explain their circumstances, and proudly expressed
the selflessness and support each has shown the other through the decades.
Together, they're looking forward to the future, whatever it may hold.

The argument is abuzz that "marriage" itself and a candidate's marital
history should not be a political issue. However, John and Elizabeth
Edwards' success in the marriage arena represents a bigger picture, a
picture from which no citizen in our country is exempt.

Divorce is expensive financially to everyone in our society. A report
conducted at Utah State University found that divorce costs the U.S. $33.3
billion per year, or $312 per household, to cover child-support enforcement,
assistance to needy families, food stamps, bankruptcies, etc. A report
published by Life Innovations Inc., stated that American businesses lose $6
billion annually due to lost productivity stemming from marriage and
relationship difficulties of employees. Divorce disrupts the workplace more
than drugs or alcohol.

Divorce carries a heavy, personal economic toll, estimated by Forbes to be
$15,000 to $30,000.

Divorce is costly to our children and affects them well into their future,
emotionally, socially and academically. They're at greater risk for
high-school delinquency, teen pregnancy, poverty, criminal behavior,
depression and alcohol and drug abuse. Parental divorce is one of the
strongest predictors of suicide, now the second-leading cause of death among
teens.

Now, it's time to connect the dots and study some of the leading
presidential contenders and their track records.

Testing the waters, in a recent interview with a conservative Christian
group, former House Speaker Newt Gingrich divulged having an extramarital
affair at the same time he was leading the charge to impeach President Bill
Clinton for allegations of perjury associated with the president's immoral
exploits with Monica Lewinsky. How do you spell "hypocrite"?

Many give kudos to Hillary Clinton for staying married before and after
Bill's affair(s). Have they really worked things out? Many observers feel
that the couple's relationship is about gaining political power, and the
love between the Mr. and Mrs. is chillier than the ice cream at Cold Stone
Creamery.

Former New York City Mayor Rudy Giuliani has skeletons, too. In May 2000,
when news broke of his extramarital relationship with Judith Nathan, to whom
he is now married, he called a quickie press conference to announce his
intention to separate from his second wife, Donna Hanover, but failed to
tell her before the announcement. His 21-year-old son Andrew told The New
York Times that he would not be campaigning for his dad for president
because "there's obviously a little problem that exists between me and his
wife. And we're trying to figure that out. But as of right now it's not
working as well as we would like."

There's more. Nathan, our potential first lady, also revealed that, like
Giuliani, this is her third marriage. That's six marriages between them.

Another presidential hopeful, Sen. John McCain, told reporters "I would hope
that gossip -- or quote 'family issues' -- would not enter into this
campaign." His concern may stem from his engagement in extramarital affairs
upon returning from the Vietnam War, including with Cindy Hensley. A year
later, McCain divorced his wife, Carol, and a month after that, he married
Hensley.

So, as other candidates and prospects scramble to squelch their personal
track records, Edwards has displayed leadership qualities that Americans
have been hungering for -- morals, values and integrity.

Sheryl P. Kurland of Longwood is a speaker to corporations and
organizations, and author of "Everlasting Matrimony: Pearls Of Wisdom From
Couples Married 50 Years Or More" -- www.EverlastingMatrimony.com.

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