FW: 20/20 Looking for Couple!! | Kinkos | Ultimate Relationship Preview | United Methodists | Too Little Work Study - 6/22/07

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- 20/20 AND LOVE YOUR RELATIONSHIP LOOKING FOR COUPLE: SIGN UP ASAP
- ANOTHER REASON TO GIVE KAY REED A STANDING OVATION
- ULTIMATE RELATIONSHIPS PROGRAM MINI PREVIEW MOVIES
- UNITED METHODISTS, UNITE!
- WHY CAN'T WE MEET AROUND DETROIT OR CHICAGO??
- TOO LITTLE WORK MORE RISKY FOR MARRIAGES -FASCINATING STUDY

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- 20/20 AND LOVE YOUR RELATIONSHIP LOOKING FOR COUPLE: SIGN UP ASAP

Another great chance to help get the word out about the effectiveness of
marriage education AND an amazing offer - all expense paid Love Your
Relationship retreat with Howard Markman!!  Please help with this one and
help yourselves as you spend two days with one of the top marriage
educators/researchers in the world.    - diane

> hi diane 
> we're looking for a couple anywhere is US who is having trouble dealing with
> anger and wants to save/improve their marriage and can make it to our Oct
> 13-14, 2007 Love Your Relationship retreat at the historic Oxford hotel in
> downtown Denver. The couple needs to be willing to be interviewed on film by
> 20/20 and by us for our research protocols before and after the retreat. The
> couple will be comp'd into the retreat - all expenses paid including hotel,
> and airfare. 
> Please contact us via email asap at: <mailto:Info at loveyourrelationship.com>
> or call Marcie at: 303-482-7588 or toll-free 866-601-LOVE
> or me at 303-871-3370
> howard markman 

For the rest of you, check the website for info and to register for this
marriage and life changing experience:
 http://www.loveyourrelationship.com/

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- ANOTHER REASON TO GIVE KAY REED A STANDING OVATION

Kay Reed who will receive a 2007 Smart Marriages Impact Award for her
leadership in school/youth marriage education, offers this helpful hint to
anyone that needs to bring handouts to Denver.

> I've checked in with the local Kinkos in Denver. You can send them your files
> online and pick-up the handouts when you get to Denver. Couldn't be easier.
> 
> http://www.fedex.com/us/officeprint/main/index.html
> 
> The zip in Denver is  80202.
> 
> Kay Reed 

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- ULTIMATE RELATIONSHIPS PROGRAM MINI PREVIEW MOVIES

For those of you that won't make it to Denver, check out the Ultimate
Relationship mini movies and see why I'm so enthusiastic about this
resource.  Or, maybe it doesn't convey with the mini version.  I've watched
the full-length 2 hr version of each of these so not sure of the effect of
the 5 min versions. In any case, I am very high on getting them out to the
public.  Remember that the Smart Marriages discount is only good through the
conference.  

http://www.freetonyinfo.com

For those of you that will make it to Denver, attend the Robbins/Madanes
event 7pm Sat night (included in your conference registration) and stop at
their exhibit.  

- diane 

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- UNITED METHODISTS, UNITE!

> United Methodists will meet following the opening plenary Thursday evening
> near the front of the plenary room. Look for the cross-and-flame logo. We will
> also have a lunch table Saturday noon. Look for the table signs.
> Jane Ives 

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- WHY CAN'T WE MEET AROUND DETROIT OR CHICAGO??

> Diane,   
> I've attended SmartMarriages in the past and I loved it.  However, I haven't
> been able to attend for several years because the cost of registering for the
> conference plus travel costs have been prohibitive for me.
>   
> I live in southeast Michigan between Detroit, Ann Arbor, and Toledo Ohio.
> Will SmartMarriages ever come to my area?
>
I know it must be frustrating.....but you have to realize that with the size
of this conference there are very few hotels that can hold us.  None in
Toledo or Detroit has a ballroom the size we need that still allows for the
meeting and exhibit space we need.  (That is we'd need to use part of the
main ballroom to get the exhibit/meeting space and we can't do that as we
use the ballroom 10 times for plenaries.)  ALSO, we meet end of June/first
part of July and that's high season/highest rates in your area.  So we look
for hotels with large space we need in the south - it's hot there in
June/July and, therefore their low season and we can get the kinds of rates
this group can afford.  Or, we meet over the July 4th weekend which is how
we'll be able to afford San Francisco in 2008.  And, the SF Hilton can still
contain us.  Barely, but we'll fit if we all hold our breath.
- diane 

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- TOO LITTLE WORK MORE RISKY FOR MARRIAGES -FASCINATING STUDY
Sydney Morning Herald (Australia)

Too little work more risky for marriages
Jessica Irvine
June 23, 2007

WORKING long hours does not destroy marriages - and marriages where a
husband works part-time are nearly twice as likely to fail.

Australia's most comprehensive continuing social survey - involving 14,000
people over five years - shows that for men at least, the negative impact on
relationships of having insufficient work is greater than being overworked.

"Sometimes it is having too much time that is causing stress," said the
director of the Federal Government-funded Household Income and Labour
Dynamics in Australia (HILDA) survey, Professor Mark Wooden.

In preliminary analysis, Dr Wooden and his associate Nicole Watson found no
significant link between above-average working hours undertaken by the male
partner and marital breakdown.

Of married couples surveyed each year, 1.7 per cent were found to have
separated by the following year. This was the same regardless of whether the
husband worked 35 to 40 hours, more than 50 hours, or more than 70 hours.

But when a husband worked part-time, the likelihood of separation increased
to 2.7 per cent.

Dr Wooden said men in part-time jobs were more likely to be underemployed,
preferring to work more hours. "Presumably they're getting cranky, and
that's leading to stress," he said.

Nearly a quarter of part-time male employees would prefer to work longer,
compared to one in eight female part-timers, Bureau of Statistics figures
show.

A recent report by the Relationships Forum Australia cited international
evidence to establish a link between long and unsociable working hours and
marital breakdown, increased parental anger and reduced childhood wellbeing.

Two-thirds of Australians who worked long hours said it interfered with
their family and personal life, the report found.

"Most people think it's a no-brainer," Dr Wooden said. "Less time with kids,
less time with wife, they're going to be tired and cranky." But this did not
necessarily lead to separation, he said. "The idea that working long hours
is the death knell for marriages is not only overblown, but wrong."

But other factors identified in the forum report - including weekend work,
work at unsociable hours and job insecurity - could still play an important
part in rising divorce rates.

Dr Wooden said his findings did not take into account the quality of the
relationship from year to year. It could be that marriages come under stress
from long hours, but take several years or decades to break up.

The study did look at other factors that influence marital success, such as
household income, length of marriage, age at marriage, and level of
relationship satisfaction. When higher, each of these factors tends to
bolster marriages.

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