Home Stretch | Marine on 4th deployment | Relationship Coaching Model | Abandoned wives and Annulment - 6/21/07

Thu Jun 21 10:04:56 EDT 2007

- HOME STRETCH 
- HEARTS UNITED OPENING KEYNOTE
- USING THE WEB NEWS WIRES/RELATIONSHIP COACHING
- ABANDONED WIVES LOOK TO VATICAN FOR HELP

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- HOME STRETCH 

We're coming down to the home stretch on Denver. The on-line registration
form will be deactivated tomorrow on Fri June 22 at noon. You will still be
able to register on-site at the Adam's Mark starting Mon afternoon at 3pm,
but it's easier to register on-line than to stand in line.  Here's the
online reg form: http://tinyurl.com/2j2ghk

And, because you ask, Texas still leads the other states in numbers
registered - even ahead of Colorado but as of yesterday just by one person,
so at walk-in registration that will change.  Still Texas is the state to
watch for all its Marriage Education action!

And, the 5 workshops with the largest registrations - all over 200 at this
point are: 315 - 7 Stages of Marriage/Rita DeMaria; 401 - Don't Take It
Anymore - Steven Stosny; 406 - Avoid Marrying a Jerk/John Van Epp; 503 -
MarsVenus Skills - John Gray; 701 - Attachment - Sue Johnson.

It's OK to ask, don't apologize. I know you're curious.

If you're not registered for these big sessions, be happy - don't worry.
They'll all be available on CD or Ipods. - diane

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- HEARTS UNITED OPENING KEYNOTE

Here's the kind of email I get on a regular basis.  Sharing this one that
came in this morning to REMIND everyone that if you're registered for the
conference you ARE registered for all eight keynote/plenary sessions
INCLUDING the opening keynote which begins Thurs at 6:30pm.  No matter how
you feel about Iraq, this keynote featuring deploying soldier couples will
be a powerful learning experience.  See you in the Plaza Ballroom at 6:30pm.
- diane 

Emphasis his -serving a 4th deployment, "it gets harder to try to be a
FATHER, HUSBAND and a US MARINE...."

> Hello ms Diane,  
> My name is XX. I am in the military and it took a lot of staring at the
> computer monitor to make the decision to write this e-mail, I wasn¹t to sure
> what to do but all I could think about was that I made a promises to my wife
> before I left this time and that was to seek counseling on parenting and
> marriage we are going on 8 years married and we have a 6 year old son. I have
> been deployed to Iraq three times and now I am on a 4th deployment overseas.
> It has been the biggest sacrifice to leave those I love to fight for my
> country. The honor and pride is what keeps us going but it seems to take a
> toll on the family and it gets harder to try to be a FATHER, HUSBAND and a US
> MARINE
> Before I left in January our marriage was at a breaking point and I almost
> lost those I love, I want to try to rebuild a strong marriage and be a better
> father but I don¹t feel like I could trust or be comfortable seeking advise
> through the military that¹s why I wrote you an outside source, so that you
> could maybe point me in the right direction.
> I want to thank you in advance for taking time to read my letter.

I've suggested he start with the Robbins/Madanes "Ultimate  Relationship"
DVDs.  (I wish there were a way to get these DVDs to all soldiers - and men!
Attend Sat night to see why.)  I sent this Marine the links to order those
DVDs and the Van Epp Marriage Links program and workbook.  And, as soon as
it's in the can, I'll send him a way to download the opening keynote "Hearts
United". At least we know he'll be able to afford that - downloads are
$9.95.

Ultimate Relationship/ Smart Marriages special discount:
http://www.robbinsmadanes.com/products.html#ultimateprogram

Marriage Links: http://nojerks.com/index.php?page=Products2

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- USING THE WEB NEWS WIRES/RELATIONSHIP COACHING

Including this as the kind of thing presenters/authors might want to try.
Visit http://www.newswiretoday.com/news/19917/ to see how to submit these
releases. Sorry, I have no idea of price or effectiveness, and no deal with
these folks, just passing this on.  There are several different web-based PR
News wire services.

This one is on Ann Kramer who will present twice - a workshop and Institute
- in Denver.  Not too late to register for the post conf training.

> 907 One Day - Monday, July 2
> Life Coaching With Couples: The NEW Profession
> Patrick Williams, EdD, Lisa Kramer, MSW
> Learn the basics of Life Coaching and the skills to coach couples to overcome
> the gap between where they are and where they want to be in their
> relationship. Includes skills practice, demonstration and practice-building
> tips. $50 spouse discount. Click for more information:
> http://www.smartmarriages.com/williams.html

Lisa G. Kramer Relationship Coach Appearing at the 11th Annual SMART
Marriages Conference

NewswireToday - 06/19/2007
- Expert transforms relationships with the Conscious Relationship Coaching
Model! 

Featured speaker at the Denver based ŒSmart Marriages Conference¹,
relationship coach, trainer and mentor, Lisa G. Kramer, is thrilled with the
response to her Conscious Relationship Coaching Program.

As a veteran speaker at the Smart Marriages Conference and an esteemed
member of the faculty of the Institute for Life Coach Training, Lisa is
speaking to hundreds of therapists, marriage educators and coaches
interested in the growing field of relationship coaching. Lisa is returning
with great momentum and feedback about her new book Loving With Intention: A
Guide For Relationship Coaching.

In her book, Lisa shares her Conscious Relationship Coaching Model, a
step-by-step process for working with couples who want to create
extraordinary relationships. Lisa will conduct a live demonstration of one
aspect of the model, the Relationship Vision, with an actual couple during
her breakout session.

³In order for relationship coaching to be successful, couples need to
clarify the vision they hold for their relationship. Coaches help couples to
clarify the vision and then to achieve it!² states Lisa G Kramer.

³Relationship coaching is the perfect niche for therapists who are tired of
their clients Œending¹ relationships in their offices. I am sharing a
successful coaching model that will allow them to work with committed
couples and once again, feel energized about their work.² Lisa G. Kramer
explains.

Lisa will be speaking on Friday June 29th, 2007 at 10:00am, and she will
co-lead a one-day post conference institute with Dr. Patrick Williams on
Monday, July 2.

Feedback about Lisa G. Kramer, MSW, PCC
³Lisa Kramer is a great speaker  a star! She consistently gets rave reviews
with requests to Œbring her back¹ and Œgive her more time!¹² Diane Sollee,
founder and director of Smart Marriages

"Relationship coaching has emerged as an important process for couples who
want to create conscious and loving relationships. In Loving with Intention,
Lisa Kramer combines well thought out theory with a ³heart and soul²
approach to working with couples. I highly recommend it!" Patrick Williams,
MCC, CEO, Institute for Life Coach Training, USA

About Lisa G. Kramer, MSW, PCC
Speaker, Author, Professional Certified Coach
Founded in 1998, Living With Intention, LLC, inspires others to achieve
their highest goals. Lisa G. Kramer, owner and founder of Living with
Intention, is the author of The Coaching Mastery Series, Living with
Intention, (© 2004) and Loving with Intention, (© 2006). Lisa is a faculty
member of the Institute for Life Coach Training where she trains
professionals to become life and relationship coaches. Certified by the
Coaches Training Institute and the International Coach Federation, Lisa¹s
coaching presentations have included: University of Pennsylvania, Bryn Mawr
College, International Coach Federation Annual Conference, Philadelphia, New
Jersey and Washington DC Coaching Chapters.

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- ABANDONED WIVES LOOK TO VATICAN FOR HELP

http://www.catholic.org/prwire/headline.php?ID=3702

Abandoned Wives look to Vatican for Help
6/20/2007 - 12:54 PST

FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE
MEDIA ADVISORY
Catholic PRWire

Abandoned Wives Challenge US Catholic Church Tribunals' Failure to
Uphold Marriage

WESTLAKE, OH, JUNE 20, 2007 - Time magazine announced yesterday that
Sheila Rauch Kennedy was able to successfully defend her marriage with
the intervention of the Roman Rota, against the Boston Archdiocese
Catholic Tribunal. The Boston Tribunal had mistakenly decided that her
marriage was invalid making her husband free to remarry. Sheila stated,
"The [annulment] process was dishonest, and it was important to stand up
and say that." Another wife, Bai Macfarlane of Cleveland, Ohio, also has
a case pending at the Roman Rota in which she is seeking the
intervention of the Vatican and challenging a US Catholic Tribunal's
failure to uphold marriage, but Mrs. Macfarlane is asking the Church to
uphold it's own canon law regarding separation and divorce, not
remarriage and annulment.

In May of 2004, Mrs. Macfarlane had asked the Cleveland Tribunal for an
investigation of her marriage praying that the Church would advise her
husband that he never had a licit reason to abandon her to seek a civil
no-fault divorce. According to the Catholic code of canon law, there are
limited reasons to separate from one's spouse (can 1151-1155). Those who
agree to marry following canon law can never seek a civil separation or
divorce unless it is foreseen that the civil judgments would not be
contrary to divine law (canon 1692).

Before every Catholic exchange of vows, both parents promise to raise
children according to the law of Christ and his Church (Rite of Marriage
sec. 59). Mrs. Macfarlane is defending her children against her
husband's requested no-fault divorce, in which children are forcibly
separated from the dedicated spouse much, or most of the time; children
and the dedicated spouse are financially devastated because they lose
the benefit of two parents working together to maintain one household
for life; and the dedicated spouse who loses the children is typically
forced to pay for the upbringing of his own children with whom he is not
even allowed to live. Macfarlane states, "Anyone with a heart, would
recognize that this routine is contrary to divine law."

When Mrs. Macfarlane asked for the Tribunal's intervention in May of
2004, the Cleveland diocese would not even accept her petition, and she,
like Sheila Rauch Kennedy appealed to Rome for help. In January of 2005
the Roman Rota accepted her case, and on May 9th, 2007 her advocate
submitted a written argument on her behalf.

After her husband had abandoned her, with the Mary's Advocates project,
Mrs. Macfarlane has connected with others throughout the country who are
working to protect traditional marriage from the no-fault divorce,
family separation routine, which is contrary to the promises both
spouses made before marriage in any Christian tradition.

Hyperlinks for text above.
Time Magazine:
http://www.time.com/time/nation/article/0,8599,1634956,00.html?cnn=yes.
Mary's Advocates: www.marysadvocates.org/terms/terms.html.

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