Lost & Found/ Boot Camp | Soul Healers in Asia | No happy ending for divorced boomers - 7/9/07

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- LOST AND FOUND
- STOSNY BOOT CAMP
- SOUL HEALERS IN SINGAPORE IN SOUTH KOREA
- NO HAPPY ENDING FOR DIVORCED BOOMERS - GROUNDBREAKING RESEARCH

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- LOST AND FOUND

> Hi Diane-
> Someone left a yellow bag with a couple books, etc in it at the ACF booth in
> Denver. The person can contact me and
> describe the contents and I will make sure they get it back.
> Sandy Naatz
> Healthy Marriage Specialist
> Administration for Children and Families
> Phone:  303-844-7346

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- STOSNY BOOT CAMP

It's a shame we don't record the Institutes, but want to share this very
illuminating endorsement of the Stosny Boot Camp training. Gives you an idea
of what it's like to attend the training institutes. The Boot Camp training
will be repeated at Smart Marriages in SF on July 1 & 2, 2008.

> Diane, I attended the Stosny Boot Camp/Compassion Training Institute in Denver
> in 2007 and want to send you my impressions and thanks: It was a well paced
> presentation with no AV other than the printed curriculum handout. This
> allowed Dr Stosny to play to his strengths: humor, stories, personality, vast
> store of knowledge. This made the institute more like a conversation between
> friends than a lecture. As this was a group of professionals, we had a lot of
> questions which he handled very well. He still was able to cover all the
> material thoroughly in the time allotted. His aside comments were extremely
> valuable and rich. There was lots and lots of added value. I wrote down a
> number of very precise, clear and wonderfully worded explanations and
> definitions.
> 
> The practicing of the HEALS conditioning program was very well done. A
> number of people had significant experiences of working through the exercise
> about real issues in their lives. As well Steven expertly modeled how to
> use the technique.
> 
> This was a hybrid institute where Steven had to teach how to do the boot
> camp as well as have us significantly experience it -- not an easy
> assignment. All in all he succeeded on both counts.
> His Institute was the main reason I came to Smart Marriages. I had very
> high expectations, having used some of his materials before. My
> expectations were more than fulfilled. The content was super valuable and
> spending two days mining Steven's knowledge was a joy. The institute
> setting allows Steven to shine.
> Brenton Mock

You can purchase the Stosny workshop recording to get an idea of his style
and content. $15.95 on CD or $9.95 download at
http://www.iplaybacksmartmarriages.com or at 800-241-7785.
This workshop, btw, had the highest attendance of any Denver conference
workshop:  

> #757-401
> You Don¹t Have to Take it Anymore
> Steven Stosny, PhD
> Learn how to use this approach in marriage ed settings to help overcome
> entrenched resentment, anger, verbal and emotional abuse BEFORE you try to
> teach communication skills.

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- SOUL HEALERS IN SINGAPORE IN SOUTH KOREA

Diane, 
A big tah dah! We made great connections at the Smart Marriages conference
that have resulted a trip to Singapore and South Korea next January. It
seems they are having the challenges with singles and couples challenges and
have invited us to teach our Soul Healing model! Thanks so much for bringing
people together. 

Bev and Tom Rodgers
Www.soulhealinglove.com

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- NO HAPPY ENDING FOR DIVORCED BOOMERS - GROUNDBREAKING RESEARCH

No happy ending for divorced boomers
Stephen Lunn, Social affairs writer
July 09, 2007

AUSTRALIA'S first wave of baby-boomer divorcees are far less happy as they
approach retirement and suffer more physical and mental health problems than
their married friends.

No matter how many years have passed since their split, members of the
growing grey army of over-55 divorcees without a new partner are likely to
be less satisfied with life than a married person.

And to confirm it is divorce that has the negative effect on wellbeing,
divorced women who remain single are less happy than widows in the same
situation.

Groundbreaking research to be presented later this week by the Australian
Institute of Family Studies paints a disturbing picture of the long-term
impact of divorce on the emotional health and circumstances of those in
their mid-50s and above.

The report, Divorce and the Wellbeing of Older Australians, will be unveiled
at the Australian social policy conference in Sydney. It has telling
implications for government policy on health and welfare in coming decades,
co-author Matthew Gray says.

Dr Gray, the institute's deputy director, said the consequences of divorce
on younger people had been studied before, but little was known about the
impact of separation on those who were in or near retirement.

"Until recently the numbers of divorced older people was relatively small,
but it has grown rapidly in recent times. The baby boomers are moving
through and they are more likely to be divorced than previous generations,
mainly due to shifting social norms and no-fault divorce," Dr Gray said.

"We are talking about a significant section of the population here. In 1996,
9.6 per cent of those aged 50-59 had been divorced. In 2006 it was 15 per
cent, and it is likely to continue to grow even faster in the future."

Using data from the Household, Income and Labour Dynamics in Australia
survey, Dr Gray and his co-authors, including leading social sciences
professor David de Vaus, examined a series of wellbeing measures for
divorced and married Australians over 55, including social connections and
support, life satisfaction, and mental and physical health.

"When it came to questions about overall satisfaction with life, the
neighbourhood you live in, etcetera, those who had been divorced reported
worse outcomes than those never divorced. It was particularly so for women,"
Dr Gray said.

"For instance, the statement 'I often feel very lonely' was put to married
and never-divorced women, and divorced and still-single women.

"In the first group, 67 per cent disagreed or strongly disagreed with the
statement, compared with 50 per cent for the second group. Statistically,
that is a fairly big difference."

Dr Gray said women reported "significantly worse physical and mental health
if they were divorced and still single".

The research followed work published by the same team in February that
covered the financial consequences of divorce for older people.

The study concluded that "older divorced single Australians are much more
likely to experience material hardships than the married never-divorced",
with home ownership, asset levels and income all lower for divorced people.

The two research papers showed that "there are negative financial
consequences of divorce in older age, and divorce has a negative effect more
generally on wellbeing later in life," Dr Gray said.

"But it is not all negative. If people remarry following divorce, a lot of
their financial position can be recovered, and those who have remarried look
pretty similar on most measures of wellbeing to their long-term married
friends."

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