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- WIN A DADDY PACK FROM NFI
- MARRIAGE JOB IN WISCONSIN
- COMMUNITY MARRIAGE MARKETING IDEA
- LICENSE TO WED
- RECAP ON FOX 
- NIRE NEWSLETTER CLIPS: MONKEYS & BIOCHEMISTRY

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- WIN A DADDY PACK FROM NFI

National Fatherhood Initiative Announces Two Requests for Proposals
(RFPs):

The National Fatherhood Initiative (NFI) is offering two
opportunities to receive up to $3000 of fatherhood resources.

Your organization may be eligible to receive up to $2500 of Daddy
Packs(tm) - NFI's best-selling resource for new dads. (Deadline to
submit proposals is July 31, 2007)

There are also opportunities for your organization to receive up to
$3000 in curricula, brochures, interactive materials, and more.
(Deadline to submit proposals is July 20, 2007)

For more information, or to apply, visit
http://www.fatherhood.org/RequestsForProposals/

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- MARRIAGE JOB IN WISCONSIN

> Green Bay, Wisconsin.
> Family and Married Life Director.
> The Catholic Diocese of Green Bay, WI has an opening for a full time Family
> and Married Life Director.  This full time position is responsible for
> overseeing diocesan efforts to support and build up the family and married
> life throughout the Diocese.  The ideal candidate should have a Master¹s
> degree in Theology or Pastoral Studies with a focus on the sociology or
> psychology of family or married life, plus a minimum of five years experience
> in the field in a related parish or diocesan position.  Must have experience
> ministering to families and engaged /married couples, with knowledge of the
> theology, spirituality and Christian social practices pertaining to the family
> and married life in today¹s society.  The candidate will work in accordance
> with Catholic social teachings and the moral and ethical values of the
> Catholic Church.  Must be a practicing Catholic and have a valid driver¹s
> license.  If interested, please apply via e-mail to:
> bwiegand at gbdioc.org OR FAX: (920) 272-8430

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- COMMUNITY MARRIAGE MARKETING IDEA

> Diane
> Here's another marriage marketing idea: our Marriage Resource Center of Wayne
> County is holding a movie date night on July 19th with a special screening of
> "License to Wed" starring Robin Williams and Mandy Moore.
>   
> The event is open to everyone especially couples. The cost is minimal and we
> are offering free gift cards to the first 50 couples toward their concession
> purchase and we'll hand out resources (books, booklets, pamphlets etc) with
> marriage education information.  Ask anyone on your list to send us materials
> and we'll be sure couples receive them.
>     
> Pamela Hudson, MA, CMT
> Event and Marketing Coordinator
> 20110 Trinity
> MARRIAGE RESOURCE CENTER of Wayne County
> Detroit, MI 48219

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- LICENSE TO WED

Two emails right in a row on the new movie License to Wed.  I'll admit the
negative reviews had turned me off but after reading that Wayne County is
using it for a date night and that Rev Littleton so highly recommends it, I
will try to see it.  - diane

> Hi Diane I came home from Denver and my husband and I went to see the
> movie 'License to Wed' staring Robin Williams, Mandy Moore and John
> Krasinski. It's had some negative press but I loved it.
> 
> It is not only funny but I believe the movie values the sacredness of
> marriage and it strongly suggest that couples need more than just the desire
> to be married to make their marriage work but that they also need to
> understand the complexity of this intimate union. While Rev. Frank (clearly
> a protestant clergy person) is not perfect and ( Robin Williams as Rev
> Frank) is quite a bit over the top in his attempt in teaching the 10
> commandments to youth and providing pre-marital instruction to the couple.
> He works on issues of communication, family of origin, finances, fair
> fighting, stress, vows and making promises, sex and parenting.  The couple
> is not sure that they need this pre-marital work because they are ³in love²
> but the wise pastor insist.
>  
> We are told that Rev. Frank is ³everywhere².  The film has him Œgoing too far¹
> actually bugging the couples conversation.  But as a pastor that also insists
> on premarital education, I think this was a metaphor for the fact that many
> pre-marital couples feel that you ³know¹ them very well and are almost able
> predict how they will react or respond to certain stimuli.   One couple even
> asked me if I was with them when they had a fight about an issue that we were
> working on.  They were not sure how I knew.  Thanks to all the Marriage
> education courses at SMARTMARRIAGE we all know certain things about
> relationships.
>  
> I came expecting Williams to be
> ŒIrreverent² and he was yet he was funny.  I did not feel he was
> making a mockery of what I hold sacred but that he was holding it up and
> asking me as a person of faith to look again and to really know what it is
> that I believe and hold dear.  He did this not by preaching but through
> humor.  
>  
> I think couples who are dating and thinking of marriage should definitely see
> the film and understand how important Pre-marital education is to help couples
> enter into their marriage vitalized and with eyes open ready to make a
> commitment for as long as they both shall live.
> 
> Father Frank's pre-marital course was PREP or PAIRS or L.I.N.K.S or PREPARE
> or RE on steroids - it made its point.
>  
> Rev. Dr Dolores E. Littleton, LMFT

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- RECAP ON FOX 

> Hi Diane,
> Wow! Great job. I think it was the best conference yet.
> 
> I was interviewed on Fox the day after the conference and I think it
> encompasses a lot of the principles from the weekend.  Here's the link:
> 
> http://www.myfoxcolorado.com/myfox/pages/InsideFox/Detail?contentId=3657093&ve
> rsion=2&locale=EN-US&layoutCode=TSTY&pageId=5.2.1
> 
> You have to scroll down a little beneath my picture and
> click on "Related Items/ Videos" SCREEN to see the interview.
> 
> Scott Haltzman, MD
> Author, The Secrets of Happily Married Men: Eight Ways to Win Your Wife's
> Heart Forever, now in book stores
> DrHaltzman at secretsofmarriedmen.com
  
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- NIRE NEWSLETTER CLIPS: MONKEYS & BIOCHEMISTRY

Here are two snips from the FREE Relationship Enhancement newsletter
(subscribe at: webmaster at nire.org).

SPECIAL MOMENTS of Readers Using Relationship Enhancement (RE) Methods:

All of us have had special moments - some funny, some touching, some
frightening, some especially rewarding, some sweet, some surprising,  etc.
Let¹s share. I¹ll start with funny.

One day I had an older couple who came in for marital counseling. RE
revealed that the wife¹s problem was that her husband "was always  watching
TV" and she wasn¹t getting attention when she needed it. The husband  said
that he had no way of knowing when she needed attention.

I remembered Bernie teaching us to put a funny-looking thing in the room
where the problem usually happened as a reminder to make the needed  change
- like a ceramic alligator on the dining room table. Inspired by this
image, I said to the wife, "What is a funny word that you can say to your
husband when you need attention? She said "MONKEY! The couple agreed to use
this as their solution.

They returned for their next appointment and I asked them how they  did
using "monkey."

The husband smiled and said, "It worked fine.....and I¹m even using  it on
her! They seemed so pleased with the result that, after that appointment, I
never saw them again.

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MONTHLY GUERNEY QUOTES:

We also have little doubt that individual differences in genetics and
biochemistry will be found to play some sort of role in the development of
psychological life-styles of people in general. It is our view, however,
that genetic and biochemical forces are not the major determining factors
in the problems of the overwhelming majority of people who see themselves,
or are seen by others, as requiring the services of mental health
professionals.

Always for this larger group, and at pre-and post-crisis points for the
much smaller, truly ill group, the role of interpersonal relations is
central to the problem and to the solution. Such a conclusion seems
inescapable when we consider that relationships with other people are at
the heart of everything we do and are virtually inseparable from all the
stresses and anxieties of life.

Bernard G. Guerney, Jr., Relationship Enhancement (1977)

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