1% Call Feb 6/ 27 year itch / Unmarried fathers outcomes/ Unmarried Men - 1/18/07

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Thu Jan 18 14:03:49 EST 2007



Following the announcement of the Utah success in getting 1% of their state
TANF funds dedicated to marriage strengthening, many of you have asked about
help in doing this in your state.  If you remember, Melanie Reese of the
Utah Healthy Marriage Initiative credited Chris Gersten and his FAMLI

>> I also credit participation with Chris Gersten and the FAMLI network.  I
>> found it helpful to participate in the conference calls and learn what other
>> states were doing.  FAMLI is a terrific resource for local coalitions whether
>> already organized or just getting started.
>> http://lists101.his.com/pipermail/smartmarriages/2007-January/003250.html

The good news is that FAMLI has scheduled a new round of calls beginning on
Feb 6.  Here is the announcement:
> FAMLI is hosting a conference call for all new FAMLI activists.  One percent
> of all state TANF funds for marriage would amount to $400,000,000 nationwide
> per year.  If you want to be part of the effort to get your state to allocate
> 1% of their TANF funds for healthy marriage, sign up for the call for new
> members to be held February 6 at 1PM EST.  To get the conference call
> number and access code, you need to go to www.famli.us <http://www.famli.us>
> and sign up NOW. - Chris Gersten

I also encourage you to order the download of Chris's very highly rated 2
hour workshop from the Atlanta Smart Marriages Conference. It gives you a
complete introduction, how-to overview of the 1% Solution campaign:

> You can download the session in minutes and listen on your computer or iPod -
> only $9.95.  Or, order the CD and share it with your state activists.
>> #756-516 - order at 800-241-7785 or at http://www.iplaybacksmartmarriages.com
>> Getting State Money: The 1% Solution
>> Chris Gersten, Krista Sisterhen, Mary Myrick
>> Learn how to access state marriage money - how to open doors and build
>> relationships with state and federal elected and appointed officials.


Rise in Divorce Rates among those 50 years of age or older
570 NEWS (Canada) 
January 18, 2007 

Are people suffering from the 27 year itch?  In the latest issue of Mcleans
that hits the news stands today: a story that shows divorce rates are on the
rise among people 50 years of age or older.

According to the latest statistics, the overall divorce rate is around 38
percent.  That's an 11% decrease since 1993. But while every other age group
reports declines, the divorce rate shot up 34 percent among those 50-54
years old, and a whopping 48% between people 55-59 years old.

Experts point to the empty nest syndrome.  As kids seem to be hanging around
the house longer and longer to pursue their education, the overall marriage
age is on the climb.  Family law practitioners asked by Mcleans say that
most in their golden years are waiting for their kids to leave before
calling it quits, therefore the rise in the age.

And, here's another version of same story:

> Divorce? At 50? Introducing the 27-year itch - Maclean's
>     Couples used to stick it out. Not anymore. Enough is enough. In the issue
>     of Maclean's hitting newsstands starting today.
>     TORONTO, Jan. 18 /CNW/ - In Canada, the only age group that is seeing a
> rise in divorce is people over 50. This isn't to say a "Happy Divorce,
> Grandma!" greeting card is imminent. But, as Maclean's senior writer Anne
> Kingston reports, even though "the overall divorce rate, which hovers at
> 38 per cent, declined 11 per cent between 1993 and 2003, the latest year for
> which statistics are available, it rose 34 per cent for those 50 to 54,
> 47.8 per cent for those 55 to 59, 31.7 per cent for those 60 to 64, and
> 9.2 per cent for those 65 and older." Traditionally low rates of divorce among
> those over age 50 give any increases exaggerated buoyancy. It remains a
> statistical verity that the longer a couple stays together, the greater the
> odds that they will. But even in the absolute terms of "incidence of divorce
> per 1,000 population," a drift to older divorce is evident for both men and
> women aged 50 to 65.
>     Marital trends such as the tendency to wed later and to delay
> child-raising figure in the grey-divorce phenomenon. What lawyers call the
> typical age-of-divorce "bell curve" - low in the 20s, rising in the 30s,
> peaking in the 40s then dropping - is being pushed back. The "empty-nest
> syndrome," a common point of marital breakdown, writes Kingston, is occurring
> at a later age. Family law practitioners used to tell the joke about an
> 85-year-old couple explaining their decision to divorce with, "We were waiting
> for the children to die." Now that kids hang around for decades, the punchline
> is: "We were waiting for the children to leave."
>     About Maclean's:
>     Maclean's is Canada's only national weekly current affairs magazine.
> Maclean's enlightens, engages and entertains 2.9 million readers with strong
> investigative reporting and exclusive stories from leading journalists in the
> fields of international affairs, social issues, national politics, business
> and culture.

January 17, 2007 
The Heritage Foundation

The Rest of the Story: Outcomes for Unmarried Fathers

Considerable attention has been given to the consequences of unwed
childbearing for mothers, but how does it affect unmarried fathers? A
1998 study, published in American Sociological Review, examined outcomes
associated with out-of-wedlock fatherhood.

The study found that unwed fatherhood is associated with delayed
marriage and higher rates of cohabitation. Men who had a child outside
of marriage were a third less likely to marry than peers who were not
fathers. In addition, men who became fathers outside of marriage were
twice as likely to cohabit as comparable men who were not fathers.

Read this finding and thousands of others at familyfacts.org.


This is a clip from discussion of the NY Times article on women living
"without husbands".  BlogHer is identified as "where the women bloggers are"

> Probably this lack of panic about being husbandless is because the
> accompanying chart also notes that only 25% of women have never been married.
> See, even if we don¹t currently live with a husband, it¹s not automatically
> because there never was one. In fact, the chart was very revealing. It
> indicates that 49% of women and 53% of men lived with a spouse in 2005. Other
> than whether or not they have ever been married in the first place, the
> biggest differences in whether men and women live with spouses are due to the
> death of said spouse (9% of women v. only 2% of men were widowed) and divorce
> (11% of women v. 9% of men). Men tend to remarry more quickly after a divorce.
> The really interesting fact ­ 31% of men (versus 25% of women) have never been
> married ­ is not discussed in the article at all.
> The media coverage I saw finally treated women with dignity on the marriage
> issue, but as usual, forgot to cover the male angle, as well as
> non-heterosexual couples. So here¹s what I would like to see: is this the
> first time in history that nearly half (47%) of men are living without a wife?
> If so, what does that mean for them? Past studies have shown that men derive
> more benefits from marriage than women. Has that changed over time as well as
> marriages have changed with the times? What¹s up with nearly one-third of men
> never getting married? How has marriage itself changed under these terms -
> more freewill to get married than compulsory marriage; second versus first
> marriages (and are there more of those these days than at any other time in
> history?)? How has increasing acceptance of homosexual couples impacted the
> marriage rate between men and women (i.e. ­ do fewer homosexuals feel
> compelled to enter into marriages with the opposite sex)? Would more people
> live with a spouse if gays and lesbians were finally given the legal right to
> marry?
> The fact that women can live fulfilling lives without husbands isn¹t
> necessarily newsworthy at this point, but exploration of these other questions
> sure would be new news to me. - By Suzanne Reisman,
> http://blogher.org/node/14533

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