Forgivenss-Knot | Parent Educators | Eharmony | Short Classes | Fair Feuds - 8/22/07 |

Thu Aug 23 17:04:48 EDT 2007

- CONFERENCE APPLICATION QUESTION
- SEEKING STORIES OF FORGIVENESS
- SEEKING PARENT EDUCATORS FOR BEING A BETTER DAD TELE-WEBCAST
- EHARMONY: 17 MILLION REGISTERED USERS
- SHORT CLASSES AS EFFECTIVE AS LONG CLASSES
- FAIR FEUDS 
- MARRIAGE QUOTES

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- CONFERENCE APPLICATION QUESTION

> Hello -- I am in the process of filling out the application to be a presenter
> at the 2008 Conference in San Francisco, CA. I was confused by the part about
> the CV being one page...my CV is about 20 pages...can I submit it as is or are
> you asking presenters to boil it down to one page? Please clarify. Thanks.
> Matthew Alexander, PhD

I hope it says MINIMUM of one page.  It can be as long as you like.  We
indicate a minimum of one page because some people will just give us a
sentence or two.  I think it also spells out what must be included in a
vita. 

The #1 mistake on presenter applications is on bibliographies.  You must
include at least 4 items you have NOT authored.

Also, it's more important than ever to pay attention to the learning
objectives.  These are lifted off your application and put on the evaluation
form as the criteria on which you will be evaluated.

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- SEEKING STORIES OF FORGIVENESS

Forgive Me...Forgive Me Knot

Diane,
A colleague and I are working on a Forgiveness Project. As part of this work
we are compiling stories of folks who have endured great hurts, tragedies,
and pain; who found the strength to forgive their offender and whose stories
illustrate how this forgiveness set them free. The stories will form the
basis for a book on beliefs that inhibit our ability to forgive with
guidelines about how to forgive. We'll also include research on the benefits
of forgiveness.  We're seeking stories about adultery, rape, torture, POW,
murder, abuse of any kind, etc.

Please ask people to visit www.forgivemeknot.com where they can submit their
stories.  Also, they can go visit www.marriageforlife.org for a sample of
our work: a copy of a teaching on forgiveness titled:  First Stone: The
Healing Power of Forgiveness.

Richard "Rick" Marks, PhD

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- SEEKING PARENT EDUCATORS FOR BEING A BETTER DAD TELE-WEBCAST

Seeking Parent Educators for Faculty!

The highly successful ³Being a Better Dad² education series is searching for
faculty to be part of the next telewebcast. Over 215 men opted into the
inaugural 4-part series on ³High Conflict Divorce & Parental Alienation!²

Now we need faculty for our next series on ³Long Distant Parenting!² There
is NO cost or travel involved, demand on your time is minimal & depending
upon enrollment, you may earn additional income. The ³Being a Better Dad²
Partnership is a collaborative venture among professionals to provide a
simple, low cost & confidential method for men to learn about how to be
better parents... something all parents could do!

If you are interested, please call Dr. John Curtis at 1.828.246.0459 or go
online to: http://www.beingabetterdad.com/betterdadinfo.htm to view detailed
information about the most recent
successful telewebcast series that concluded in May 2007.

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- EHARMONY: 17 MILLION REGISTERED USERS

> Wednesday, August 22, 2007
> eHarmony Releases Customer Numbers, Marriage Stats
> 
> Pasadena-based online dating and relationship site eHarmony said today that it
> has reached 17 million registered users for the company's service. The firm
> said that it saw a growth in its subscriber base by more than 30% year-to-year
> in the last six months, and said that on an average day more than 90 eHarmony
> members marry as a result of being matched on the site. eHarmony runs a online
> dating site that uses computerized models to match up users the company feels
> are most compatible.

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-  SHORT CLASSES AS EFFECTIVE AS LONG CLASSES

Diane, 
I wonder if the same thing might be true for Marriage Education classes?
Bill

Half-Hour CPR Classes Effective: Study
Washington Post
August 4, 2007

SATURDAY, Aug. 4 (HealthDay News) -- Thirty-minute CPR (cardiopulmonary
resuscitation) classes can be just as effective as a half-day course, a new
study finds.

A team at the University of Texas Southwestern Medical Center at Dallas
found that a 30-minute, video-based CPR training session was as successful
as a traditional three- to four-hour class in teaching basic lifesaving
skills to people.

Six months after the classes, participants who took the shorter session were
able to perform CPR and use an automated external defibrillator (AED) as
well or better than those who took the longer course.

The half-hour course includes a 23-minute DVD developed by the American
Heart Association that presents basic adult CPR skills. As they watch the
DVD, students practice CPR techniques on manikins. Instructors are available
to answer questions from the students.

The study, which is published in the August issue of the
journalResuscitation, is the first to document the long-term effectiveness
of the 30-minute CPR/AED course, the researchers said.

"The results of this formal investigation should not only facilitate more
widespread training and frequent re-training in CPR techniques, but it also
diminishes some of the inefficiencies and labor-intensity inherent in
traditional CPR training," Dr. Paul Pepe, chief of emergency medicine at UT
Southwestern, said in a prepared statement.

SOURCE: University of Texas Southwestern Medical Center at Dallas, news
release, July 25, 2007
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- FAIR FEUDS 

Fair feud? 6 issues couples should argue about
ŒMen's Health¹ on which arguments can ruin or strengthen relationships
 http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/20323044/?gt1=10252

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- MARRIAGE QUOTES

Diane, I appreciate it when you include little stories and anecdotes about
marriage like the one you shared recently about the elderly couple that
wanted their recliners moved so they could hold hands.  I'm sure other
readers also enjoy these. The marriage legislation and program news is good,
but it's nice to sprinkle in news of the heart when you can. - Rose

I receive request like yours from time to time and my intentions are good.
I just get busy and forget.  I like your phrase "news of the heart" -
perhaps that will help me remember.  I'll put that on a post it note on my
computer.  I'll stick these at the end when I remember so those not so
inclined can skip them.  This because I also get complaints that the posts
are TOO LONG.  - diane

Here, from the Marriage Quotes page at smartmarriages.com:
> Me Tarzan, you Jane.
> Edgar Rice Burroughs, Tarzan of the Apes
> ****************
> Diane,
> A woman in my online group was being very negative about her husband and the
> group leader told her to try to think of some positives, even if it were
> difficult. This is what she came up with. I thought it was touching. I
> just wanted you to see it.
> - - - - - - - - -
> H was very helpful in the kitchen. He usually got home from work around 3
> PM, and he usually made dinner for the family. I don't get home until around
> 5 PM. He did all the yard work, took care of all car maintenance, always
> called me if he was going to be late, instilled complete trust, did the
> lion's share of bill paying because I hate to write due to carpal tunnel
> syndrome, balanced the checkbook, fixed the toilet when it would break
> (regularly), painted the outside of the house.
> 
> He usually remembered to put the toilet seat and lid down. He vacuumed
> occasionally. He spent lots of time with the kids. He bought advent
> calendars with chocolate behind each day for the kids every Christmas
> season. He laughed and joked a lot, and didn't like to be serious. He told
> me when I looked good. He learned to enjoy horses because our girls and I
> loved to ride.
> 
> He was willing to try new dishes I prepared. He loved my lasagna. He went to
> church with the family every Sunday, even though he had trouble staying
> awake during preaching. Although he doesn't like classical music, he went to
> almost every concert our daughters played in when they were in youth
> symphony (4 years for one and 6 years for the other).
> 
> He held my hand through 3 labors and deliveries, and whispered in my ear to
> encourage me. He lovingly dressed an open wound for me after surgery for a
> breast abscess after the birth of our 3rd. Four years later, he stood beside
> my bed as I was being wheeled to surgery to remove a breast due to cancer,
> and tears filled his eyes as they did mine. That was in 1989.
> 
> He walked the floor for hours at night with a sleepless, cranky child. He
> spooned cereal and baby food into little mouths, and endured spit-up and
> baby poop on his clothing. He helped me take care of my mother as she was
> dying of cancer.
> 
> Is this what you mean? It was difficult to get started, but look what I
> accomplished! I also have a huge lump in my throat and tears in my eyes
> right now. He was a fantastic husband! My sister told me he "adored" me, and
> I guess that's correct for a lot of the 26 years we have been married.
> Unknown
> ****************
> The entire sum of existence is the magic of being needed by just one person.
> Vi Putnam
> ****************

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