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- YOUNG MARRIAGE: NOT SO CRAZY
- TONY ROBBINS/CLOE MADANES LINK FIXED
- VAN EPP AND WYLIE: LOVE AND DATING EXPERTS FROM THE USA

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- YOUNG MARRIAGE: NOT SO CRAZY

Joyanna Jones would clearly enjoy Mark Gungor's workshop.  I'll invite her.
- diane
> 314 - Fri, June 29, 2007 Denver
> Tackling the Myths
> Mark Gungor
> Reexamine many of the concepts  soul mate, romance, benefits of delayed
> marriage  accepted as fact by our culture  and even many in the marriage
> movement.

Young marriage: Not so crazy
By: Cameron Jones
Arizona Daily Wildcat | Opinions
4/20/07 

> My friends told me I would change and grow apart from my husband, but perhaps
> the point is to change and grow together.
> 
> By postponing marriage, one can establish their individuality, but they may
> give up the ability to mesh lives and goals with someone else.

I am what the enrollment office of the University of Arizona would call a
non-traditional student. I like to hope that I am relatively normal, but
alas, a little "event" a year and a half ago changed that.

I'm married.

And happy, thank you very much.

Listening to some of my closest friends before my wedding, you would have
thought I was making the worst mistake of my life.

Apparently, I was far too young to know what I was doing, and far too na've
to think that I could balance school and a husband.

They thought I would give up on my education and make babies while barefoot
in the kitchen.

Planning my wedding was frustrating because everywhere I would go, whether
trying on my dress or picking invitations, someone would invariably comment
that I was too young to get married.

The lady hemming my dress asked if I was 16 yet. For the record, I was 20.

Common supposition is that people under 25 do not know enough about
themselves to make an intelligent decision regarding a life partner. They
say that you will change and grow apart and add to the high number of
divorces in this country.

Scientific research used to suggest that women who married young were
unlikely to finish their higher education. Women who did pursue a degree and
a career were unlikely to marry at all because they postponed their personal
lives to gain professional ones.

This attitude is still very prevalent, even though the reality is changing.
It is no longer the 1970s, though. More than 30 years later, ideas about
educated women have changed.

Women who go to college are very likely to get married eventually, according
to Norval Glenn, a sociology professor at the University of Texas at Austin
in an article for the Daily Bruin.

Also, according to Glenn, "People that are married actually tend to do
better in school."

It is refreshing to finally have something to back up my suspicions about
the benefits of married life as a student, besides my own experiences.

Does that mean that my husband forbidding me to procrastinate helped me get
better grades? Probably. Being forced to be responsible in financial areas
like bill paying, credit management, taxes and getting a mortgage may have
leaked over into other areas of my life.

I believe that having someone by your side who is committed to going through
life with you, and having to be by their side in return, can form a very
stable environment for schoolwork.

You want to succeed, not only for yourself, but also for your partner who is
rooting for you as well.

Another thing I can be happy about: My husband and I are actually less
likely to divorce.

Steve Mintz, co-chair of the Council on Contemporary Families and a
sociology professor at the University of Houston said college-educated
couples stay married longer than those who are not, according to the Daily
Bruin.

Mintz said, "In a world where half the marriages end in divorce, people
aren't just marrying for the moment anymore. They're trying to determine how
it will sustain. Whether you're likely to grow together has grown more
important."

It makes sense, in a backwards sort of way. My friends told me I would
change and grow apart from my husband, but perhaps the point is to change
and grow together.

By postponing marriage, one can establish their individuality, but they may
give up the ability to mesh lives and goals with someone else.

If the point is to support each other along the journey, getting married
young isn't such a bad idea.

Sure, it's not for everyone; only 15 percent of college students across the
country are married.

But for some, it's the right decision at the right time. Perhaps it's time
for a shift in perspective.

Getting married in college can be beneficial and does not mean that a person
is going to give up an education and future goals. It just means that person
is going to share them with someone.

Joyanna Jones is a journalism senior and wishes that college boys would
learn to look for a wedding ring.
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- TONY ROBBINS/CLOE MADANES LINK FIXED

>> Diane, We're coming to the conference from Australia and want to order the
>> programs in advance - as you've advised. Are you aware that several of the
>> TOOB programs do not have links to order the kits?  And, yesterday I tried to
>> order the Robbins-Madanes "Ultimate relationships" program using the code
>> "CMFCE" to obtain the discount of US$50. However, when I attempted to do
>> that, the message came up that that code had expired!
>> Stan Levine

Sorry for the double frustration.  MOST of the TOOBs now have live links to
the programs with discounts in place. If they don't you will be able to
order the kits on-site in Denver.

The Smart Marriages/CMFCE discount code for the Ultimate Relationship
Program has been reactivated. Thank for the heads up!

To order Ultimate Relationship program:
http://www.robbinsmadanes.com/products.html#ultimateprogram

To order TOOBs (Teach right Out Of the Box) programs:
http://www.smartmarriages.com/toobs.html

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- VAN EPP AND WYLIE: LOVE AND DATING EXPERTS FROM THE USA

Love & Dating Experts From USA Teach How To Achieve Relationship Success

This is a report on the John Van Epp and MP Wylie visits in December 2006.
It's fun to see the Singapore perspective.  To read, and view photos:
http://tinyurl.com/2rzwr2

Van Epp and Wylie will each present in Denver, in fact each will present a
TOOB training in the program they presented in Singapore.
http://www.smartmarriages.com/toobs.html

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