Hair Salons/ Shake Things Up - 9/1/06

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- HAIR SOLON PARTNERSHIPS
- SHAKE THINGS UP OR YOU WON'T RELOCATE HER DESIRE

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- HAIR SOLON PARTNERSHIPS

Let's turn this one in our favor.

> Hair salons take cut as talk turns to divorce
> The Telegraph (UK)
> By Stewart Payne
> Sept 1, 2006 
> 
> Small talk while having a haircut could soon become a source of profit for the
> hairdresser.
> 
> A firm of solicitors has approached salons in Salisbury, Wilts, offering £75
> "commission" for every client passed its way through information gathered in
> the salon.
> 
> If, for example, a customer tells her stylist that she is thinking of a
> divorce, then she will be advised of a local law firm happy to take her case.
> advertisement
> Expat Weekly Offer 2006
> 
> A man who confides that he is considering leaving his wife will get the same
> advice.
> 
> The referral scheme has been made by the head of family law at Trethowans
> solicitors. The company is making its business cards available to salons in
> the city, although not all are happy.
> 
> Steve Hall, of Heaven Hair, said he was outraged at being asked to "betray"
> the confidence of his clients.
> 
> He received a letter from the law firm which suggested that hairdressers built
> up such a level of trust with clients that they came to know about personal
> issues.
> 
> "In many instances you might provide a listening ear", the letter continues.
> "At other times you might feel able to recommend them on to someone who can
> help them out."
> 
> Mr Hall said: "I could not believe they would think that I would sell out my
> customers."
> 
> However, the manager of Illusions Unisex Hair Salon said he was happy for his
> staff to give business cards to anyone looking for legal advice.
> 
> The law firm said the scheme was "creative marketing". Bryn Hughes, the firm's
> marketing director, said 30 salons had taken up the offer.

Get the hair salons and barbershops in your community to refer to your
marriage education classes and offer them a referral fee.  AND/or, offer
free advertising on your website for cooperating salons, or in your
congregation bulletins, etc. This idea isn't new, in fact was part of one of
the most popular keynotes ever given at Smart Marriages: Guerilla Divorce
Busting by Michele Weiner Davis.  You can order this keynote and other great
marketing ideas at 800-241-7785.

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  - diane 
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- SHAKE THINGS UP OR YOU WON'T RELOCATE HER DESIRE
Monday, August 28, 2006
Ask the Advice Goddess
AMY ALKON
Special to the Register (Orange County, CA)

Q. My fiancée and I have been together for two years and living together
since December, but around March, her libido took a nose dive. Otherwise,
our relationship is ideal: We're mutually respectful, affectionate,
supportive, understanding, generous, and our trust is rock-solid. I'm
completely baffled about her sudden lack of desire for sex, and she can't
explain it either. She fears it's a sign we aren't supposed to be together.
I worry that she doesn't want me anymore and doesn't have the courage to say
it.

­ Withholding Pattern

A. In the movies, when two lovers fall into each other's arms and suck face
like they're looking for lost tonsils, it's generally because the guy's back
from prison or the war, not because he's just come in from taking out the
garbage.

You've probably heard warnings that living together before marriage makes
for ho-hum sex. Of course, so does living together after marriage, but then
you've already got a foot in the trap. And whether a couple is married or
just "committed," note that there's a huge market for self-help manuals like
"Hot Monogamy," and none whatsoever for books titled "Sex With Anonymous
Hussies Needn't Be Dull."

You aren't the only couple crawling around under furniture to look for the
woman's lost libido. In a series of studies published in the Journal of Sex
& Marital Therapy, sexual medicine specialist Rosemary Basson noted data
showing that a third of women lack sexual interest. A third? Hmmm ... could
the problem be not in women, but in the expectation that desire in women
works exactly like desire in men? Well, that's what Basson found. When a
relationship is new, or when women are away from their partner for days or
weeks, they're more likely to have "conscious sexual hunger," just like men.
But, once women are in long-term relationships. . . .

To read the full answer, including Michele Weiner-Davis wisdom:
http://www.ocregister.com/ocregister/life/columns/article_1255386.php

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