List housekeeping/ Why Spanish/ Have Resume, WILL travel / Van Epp advice to Liz Taylor - 10/25/06

Wed Oct 25 17:55:49 EDT 2006

- IMPORTANT LIST SERV HOUSEKEEPING NOTE
- SPANISH LANGUAGE PROGRAMS
- HAVE RESUME, WILL TRAVEL
- HOW MANY JERKS HAVE YOU MARRIED? VAN EPP'S ADVICE TO LIZ TAYLOR
- AND, HERE IS THE BLURB RUN BY THE NY POST WITH IT'S GAZILLION READERS

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- IMPORTANT LIST SERV HOUSEKEEPING NOTE

I was called today by the person that serves my list to alert me to the fact
that more and more of you are simply hitting reply when you read a list serv
message.  Your reply emails DO NOT REACH ME. They go into cyberspace and are
discarded.  You must send any emails to me at my email address: DIANE "AT"
SMARTMARRIAGES.COM  If you forget my address you can find it at the bottom
of every single post. The caller started to give me a list of those of you
that are frequent offenders, but after just a few ( Marline Pearson, Alice
Graubert, John Van Epp, familyndog, etc) I just felt sick (wondering how
many messages I've been missing) and decided to notify the whole list.
- diane 

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- SPANISH LANGUAGE PROGRAMS

I'm sure you can imagine that I've received dozens of responses to the post
about "why waste tax payer dollars translating programs into Spanish?"  I'm
only going to share two, but realize that many of you shared these same
sentiments. - diane

> Diane:
> I'm concerned about the message about Spanish language programs.  Marriage
> education is a global issue, not an American issue.  Our books are being
> translated and published in Spanish because there is a crying need for
> materials in Spain, South America, and Central America...as well as in the US.
> I don't think protectionism and marriage education need to be in the same
> room...it doesn't serve the overarching goal of strengthening marriages
> everywhere.  
> Susanne Alexander
> Marriage Transformation Project
> susanne at marriagetransformation.com

> I am a native spanish speaker and I am not illegal here in the United States,
> I did not attend the Smartmarriages conference this year, and I hope I could
> do it next year. I have been reading all the material I get fron this emails,
> and have learned a lot of marriage education, also I have read  many books
> recommended in this website, all of them in english language, but I grew in
> Colombia talking and reading in spanish, and the most important: loving in
> spanish, so I would like if I could find information in spanish too. Í think
> that people with such thinking are privating themselves of the opportunity to
> access new cultures, because the knowledge of another language brings also the
> understanding of different worlds, literature, family values, etc.
> Claudia Lozano
>   
> I am American and I am married to a Hispanic man who is a US citizen, so he is
> here legally. Just because people speak Spanish does not mean they are here
> illegally. Also, they may be still LEARNING English, which is a PROCESS that
> takes TIME. If these programs help save and strengthen marriages, why the
> opposition? And even though my husband speaks great English, Spanish is his
> "mother tongue" and concepts are better grasped when presented in someone's
> "mother tongue."- Crystal Weaver

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- HAVE RESUME, WILL TRAVEL

Derek Gwinn (below) makes some very good points.  (And, btw, I can highly
recommend him to anyone looking to hire!)  BUT, he's right: please send your
JOB ANNOUNCEMENTS so I can post them. It's FREE. See samples at:
http://www.smartmarriages.com/jobs.html

Also, please include salary.  I'm not going to post those that don't list
salary.  

And, the good news, I received two dozen resumes today from lots of very
impressive people seeking employment with the successful grant recipients -
willing to relocate!  - diane

> Hi, Diane,
> 
> Might I suggest that the best response to your "getting calls" isn't to
> begin a job placement service but to request (AGAIN) that those who have
> open positions place a job announcement on your Web site?
> 
> As one who has been unemployed by grant relocations, I've been checking
> your jobs list every day. You've only been given 5 position
> announcements and three of those are with the same organization. And the
> list hasn't changed in 9 days.
> 
> Also, I personally would prefer to know what the positions are rather
> than dropping my resume into a blind box. You might not make a
> connection based on a 1-page resume that I, as an applicant, would make
> because I know what had been on page 2 of the resume.
> 
> So if these organizations are having trouble finding people, it might be
> because they haven't taken advantage of an existing service that would
> readily help them. And I'm sure you have enough other "things" on your
> desk to deal with, without becoming smartmarriagejobs.com.
> 
> Derek Gwinn / derek at gwinn.us

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- HOW MANY JERKS HAVE YOU MARRIED? VAN EPP'S ADVICE TO LIZ TAYLOR

Here's the press release sent out by Van Epp's publisher followed by the
blurb picked up and run by the NY Post.  Which just goes to show, you gotta
get creative.  - diane

> The Author of
> HOW TO AVOID MARRYING A JERK
> Offers Advice to Elizabeth Taylor
>  
> The burning question for Elizabeth Taylor is, how many jerks have you married?
> Following rumors of her intended marriage to celebrity photographer Firooz
> Zahedi, John Van Epp, the author of How To Avoid Marrying a Jerk, wonders if
> nine will be her lucky number, based on her dismal marital track record.
>  
> ³Is she going to do anything differently this time than she¹s done the other
> eight times?² asks the author and marriage counselor.  Whether she erred in
> her previous marriages by choosing the wrong partner, getting hitched at the
> wrong time, or bringing to the relationship problems that sabotaged the love,
> Van Epp hopes Taylor has changed enough in her attitudes toward marriage so
> The Big Nine will work this time. Otherwise, says Van Epp, this marriage may
> just be a cut-and-paste duplicate of the previous eight, with the names
> changed. 
>  
> ³It¹s essential for Taylor to have taken some inventory from her previous
> marriages to help her learn better attitudes and behavior toward her partner
> and about marriage,² notes Van Epp.  It¹s essential that she and Zahedi talk
> about their track records and mistakes in their relationships so they don¹t
> repeat them. Van Epp urges them to ask difficult questions:  Will they own up
> to the behaviors that caused their other relationships to disintegrate? Will
> this marriage be a legitimate proving ground for Taylor to be a better partner
> now than she has been in the past? Was the process for choosing Zahedi as a
> partner different than the previous eight times?
>   
> Van Epp¹s greatest hope for Taylor is that she finally finds the happiness in
> this marriage that the others were lacking. ³She absolutely deserves it,² he
> says.  
>
> HOW TO AVOID MARRYING A JERK
> The Foolproof Way to Follow Your Heart Without Losing Your Mind
> Author: John Van Epp
> ISBN 0071472654
> Hardcover: $22.95
>  
> John Van Epp¹s AOL Coaches Page is live!
> http://coaches.aol.com/love-and-sex/john-van-epp/main
>  
> For interviews and review copies, contact:
> Ann Pryor, Publicity Manager
> McGraw-Hill Companies
> 2 Penn Plaza, 12th Floor
> New York, New York 10121
> 212.904.4078 tel
> 212.904.4091 fax

AND, HERE IS THE BLURB RUN BY THE NY POST WITH IT'S GAZILLION READERS:

> October 22, 2006 -- ELIZABETH Taylor needs to analyze each of her past eight
> marriages if she decides to tie the knot with her latest paramour, celebrity
> snapper Firooz Zahedi - or she'll be doomed to failure once again. So advises
> John Van Epp, author of "How to Avoid Marrying a Jerk." "It's essential for
> Taylor to have taken some inventory . . . to help her learn better attitudes
> and behavior toward her partner and about marriage," he says. "Otherwise, this
> marriage may just be a cut-and-paste duplicate of the previous eight with the
> names changed."

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