Tonight Teleconferences/Sacrifice/ Prepare/Enrich/ Bereavement and Divorce Myth - 10.17.06

Tue Oct 17 15:08:57 EDT 2006

- CONFERENCE LOCATION?
- TELECONFERENCES TONIGHT OCT 17: REMINDER
- SACRIFICE AS A PREDICTOR OF MARITAL OUTCOMES
- PREPARE/ENRICH - FALL TRAINING SCHEDULE
- ONLY 16 PERCENT OF BEREAVED PARENTS DIVORCE, NEW SURVEY REVEALS
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- CONFERENCE LOCATION?

> Diane, Where will the conference be in 2007?
>  
> We have two couples that are interested in taking the PREP Training. Do you
> have the dates set for the Prep certification training.  I think you offer it
> every year? 
> 
> Anne 

Totally alarms me that you don't know WHERE the conference will be in '07!
Eeek.  Makes me wonder how many don't know the answer to that. It's in
Denver.  And, yes, the three-day PREP Institute training dates are set for
June 26, 27, & 28th.  To get all kinds of info go to smartmarriages.com and
click on Conference.  Or, just click here:
http://www.smartmarriages.com/conferencedetails.html

Please spread the word to others about the dates and location of Smart
Marriages 2007: Denver June 26 - July 3, 2007.  - diane

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- TELECONFERENCES TONIGHT OCT 17: REMINDER

> - AFRICAN AMERICAN MARRIAGE EDUCATION TELECONFERENCE OCT 17, 6PM PST
> This conference call will provide the opportunity for anyone working with
> African American marriage and relationship education to brainstorm about how
> to best enhance and support marriage and relationship education programs -
> those that were funded and those that were not.  A time to share and to
> discuss what is and isn't working.   To participate, contact Ernesta Wright,
> executive director of the Orange County based Green Foundation, at:
> thegreenfoundation3 at y... http://www.thegreenfoundation.net
> 

> - NOW WHAT? - NEXT STEPS COACHING PHONE BRIDGE: OCT 17, 9-10PM
> Bill Coffin, Dennis Stoica, and Mary Ortwein will discuss next steps for
> successful grant recipients and strategies for those that didn't get funded to
> stay in the game.
>   
> To listen live: 1-646-519-5800. At the prompt enter PIN 2645#. The bridge line
> is available five (5) minutes prior, at 8:55pm. To avoid background noise
> please mute your phone by entering *6.  AFTER the presenters have concluded,
> anyone wishing to comment can remove him/herself from mute by again pressing
> *6.
> 
> If you miss the call the recording will available until Nov 17.  There is no
> charge for listening live to the panel presentation and/or for accessing the
> recording other than your own local long distance.

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- SACRIFICE AS A PREDICTOR OF MARITAL OUTCOMES
This article is available on the Family Process website.
Article By: Stanley, Whitton, Sadberry, Clements & Markman
http://www.familyprocess.org/featured_articles_display.asp?id=64

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- PREPARE/ENRICH - FALL TRAINING SCHEDULE

There are 100 workshops scheduled across the country in which you can become
certified to administer and provide feedback on the David Olson
PREPARE/ENRICH Inventories. For workshop listings state by state or to learn
about Self-training, visit http://www.prepare-enrich.com/training.html

Or, wait to take the certification training at the Denver Smart Marriages
Conference: 

> 117 One Day - Thursday: June 22
> PREPARE/ENRICH
> David Olson, PhD, Peter Larson, PhD
> Learn how to help couples prepare for marriage and enrich their relationships
> with five 165-question inventories (PREPARE, PREPARE-MC, PREPARE CC, ENRICH or
> MATE) and a series of feedback sessions focused on six couple-strengthening
> exercises. Qualifies participants to administer, interpret and give feedback
> on 5 couple inventories. Includes all training materials, PREPARE/ENRICH
> leader manual, 5 inventories, and coupon.
> $50 spouse discount. Click for more information.
> http://www.smartmarriages.com/olson.html

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- ONLY 16 PERCENT OF BEREAVED PARENTS DIVORCE, NEW SURVEY REVEALS
AScribe Newswire
Oct 12, 2006 

>        "It is now imperative that those of us within the bereavement community
> dispute this fictionalized 70 to 90 percent divorce rate whenever it
> surfaces," she says. "This myth must be laid to rest."

       OAK BROOK, Ill -- Flying in the face of the conventional belief that
couples who experience the death of a child are virtually destined to
divorce, a survey released today finds that divorces among bereaved parents
are far lower than that of the general public, and dramatically lower than
is often portrayed by professionals, the media, and even those within the
bereavement community.

       The survey shows a divorce rate of only 16 percent among bereaved
parents, far below the 50 percent divorce rate generally cited for couples
within the United States.

       Conducted earlier this year under direction of The Compassionate
Friends, the nation's largest self-help bereavement organization for
families that have experienced the death of a child, the survey confirmed
the general findings of a 1999 study, also for The Compassionate Friends,
that showed an even lower 12 percent divorce rate among bereaved parents.

       "This survey proves once and for all that the 70, 80, even 90 percent
divorce rate so often quoted in the media, by professionals, and even the
bereavement community is completely wrong," says Patricia Loder, executive
director of The Compassionate Friends. "While the death of one's child
definitely places stress on a marriage, we believe the divorce rate is so
low because of the commitment parents have to survive their tragedy as a
shared experience," says Mrs. Loder, who herself received a warning about
the high divorce rate from a hospital nurse nearly 16 years ago, following a
car crash.

       "First I was told my children had died. Then I was told my marriage
would die. There are no words that can describe how that warning compounded
the grief I already felt."

       "It is now imperative that those of us within the bereavement
community dispute this fictionalized 70 to 90 percent divorce rate whenever
it surfaces," she says. "This myth must be laid to rest."

       The survey, taken in April-May of 2006, has a margin of error of
+/-4.3 percent. A detailed summary of the study is available at
http://www.compassionatefriends.org by clicking on "When a Child Dies" 2006
Survey Summary.

       The survey was given to 400 bereaved parents, 200 men and 200 women,
from across the United States in all age brackets. Besides the divorce rate,
the survey also examined how bereaved parents rated the support provided
them by their employer following the death of the employee's child. The
survey also delved into awareness and usage by bereaved parents of various
organizations and types of support available following the death of their
child.

       For more information about the survey or the location of chapters,
call toll-free 877-969-0010 or visit the national website at
http://www.compassionatefriends.org .

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