Institutes/ Men and Marriage/ Finding a Wife/ Stepfamily Tasks/ Asia - 11/22/06

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- NEW INSTITUTES FOR 2007
- MEN AND MARRIAGE: FREE DOWNLOAD
- FINDING A WIFE 
- STEPFAMILY STUDY: FREE 25 PAGE PDF "TOOLS" IF YOU TAKE THE SURVEY
- PICK A PARTNER AND MARRIAGE LINKS IN ASIA

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- NEW INSTITUTES FOR 2007
I know it's that time of year when you're expecting me to announce the full
Institute roster.  I'm close, but still have a few descriptions to edit.
But to whet your appetites, here are some Institutes we're adding in '07.  I
know most of you realize that there are 36 institutes each year, 18 pre and
18 post, and want to assure you that classics like PREP, Divorce Busting,
Prepare/Enrich, IMAGO, Family Wellness, etc etc etc will all be back. Each
person can take only two Institute trainings - one pre conference and one
post conference. So, plan to bring your community marriage co-conspirators
with you - folks that can fan out and cover all the bases.  - diane

NEW INSTITUTES IN 2007:

Three Days - Tuesday, Wednesday, & Thursday, June 26, 27, 28
Bringing Baby Home
Carolyn Pirak, MSW, Joni Parthemer, MEd
Become a Certified Gottman Educator!  Using a research-based workshop
developed by John Gottman, learn to teach pregnant and parenting couples
relationship skills essential for a successful transition to parenthood.
Help couples maintain intimacy, regulate conflict and understand their
baby's cues.  

Two Days - Monday & Tuesday, July 2 & 3
Creating Connection: Emotionally Focused (EFT) Interventions for Couples
Sue Johnson, EdD
Understand the key moves and defining moments in the couples' drama and 3
key steps to move couples from destructive interactions into safe,
empowering connection. Emotion is the music of the dance, learn to change
the music and, thus, the dance.

Three Days - Tuesday, Wednesday & Thursday: June 26, 27, 28
3-Program Bonanza! Bernard Guerney¹s Relationship Enhancement (RE),
Mastering the Magic of Love & Love¹s Cradle Programs
Mary Ortwein, MS
Qualify to teach three programs: the original Classic RE plus two new
simplified programs, Mastering the Magic of Love, and Love's Cradle (for
couples with an infant). Plus add-on special focus seminars.  Great for
low-income, communty or church based.

Two Days - June 27 & 28
Basic Training: The Black Marriage Curriculum
Nisa Muhammad, Rozario Slack, DMin
Black Americans are the most unmarried group in the world. Learn
to teach the skills, knowledge, and attitudes that will
reverse this trend and maintain the momentum.

902 Two Days - Monday & Tuesday, July 2 & 3
Compassion Power BOOT CAMP & Love Without Hurt
Steven Stosny, PhD
Qualify to teach the intensive, 3-day Boot Camp format to reduce anger,
resentment and emotional abuse and the "Love Without Hurt" 8-hour program to
add to any marriage education course - designed to recognize & prevent
domestic violence and child abuse.

907 One Day - Monday, July 2
First Things First: Community Marriage Marketing
Julie Baumgardner, MS, Rozario Slack, DMin
Implement educational, media-savvy strategies using both paid and free
advertising that will increase participation, change attitudes and behaviors
and reverse the epidemic of family breakdown in your community.

909 One Day - Monday, July 2
Become a Certified Love Educator
Pat Love, EdD, Kathleen McFadden, CLE
Gain an in-depth understanding of love & relationships that includes the
force of family systems, physiology & hormones, roles & stages of love and
leave equipped with a course book & experiential teaching guide.

915 One Day - Monday, July 2
WAIT (Why Am I Tempted?)Training
Shelly Donahue
This highly experiential curriculum captivates, entertains and teaches teens
the physical, intellectual, emotional, social, spiritual and financial
importance of learning how - and why - to learn how to love well and to wait
until marriage to have sex.

 - diane   

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- MEN AND MARRIAGE: FREE DOWNLOAD
Hi Diane,
I was invited to co-write a chapter called "Men, Marriage and Divorce" in
the APA Press book "The Textbook of Men's Mental Health" that is now
available in PDF format.

http://www.fathersandfamilies.org/NEWS/2006_MMH_book_chapter12_FINAL.pdf?PHP
SESSID=32895b0a9224a3250a7ebe82bb6dc42a

I want to warn readers that the book editors took some liberties, including
substituting the word "resolve issues" for "repair" in the third bullet on
page 289, which, unfortunately, renders the point inaccurate. As Gottman has
pointed out, happily married couples don't resolve "big ticket" items the
majority of the time.  But they definitey DO repair!

Scott Haltzman, MD 
http://www.secretsofmarriedmen.com

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- FINDING A WIFE 

In his new blog, African American, award-winning journalist Reggie Williams
provides his thoughts on finding a wife. Check it out at
<http://reggiesreport.blogspot.com/>
Callista Nance
Senior VP of Publicity

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- STEPFAMILY STUDY: FREE 25 PAGE PDF "TOOLS" IF YOU TAKE THE SURVEY

Diane, 
The Stepfamily Foundation of Alberta has launched a research study intended
to generate information about stepparenting styles. We would be grateful if
you would invite your listserv to participate.
http://www.stepfamily.ca/stepparent_survey_overview.htm
Dr. Bill Nodrick
info at stepfamily.ca

It's always a good idea to help stepfamilies in any way we can.  Stepfamily
members who take the survey are rewarded with a free 25 page pdf/booklet
"Tools to Master 4 Essential Stepfamily Tasks" which is reason enough to
forward the survey url to any stepcouples you care about.  Or, if you
qualify as a stepfamily member, take the survey yourself and use the booklet
in your Community Healthy Marriage work.  I've snipped a piece of advice
(below) as an example of what's contained in the booklet.  - diane

> Your partner will react to an act of kindness directed toward their child as
> if you had extended two acts of kindness directly towards them (your partner).
> The same applies for an unkind act, but your partner is likely to react as if
> you had acted unkindly towards them (your partner) five times.

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- PICK A PARTNER AND MARRIAGE LINKS IN ASIA

I emailed John Van Epp to find out how his recent trip to Singapore went.
I'm sharing his reply to remind us all of the great interest in and need for
our programs all around the world.  I had emails this week from Croatia and
Egypt - both looking to organize marriage education efforts in their
countries. And, to remind you we had attendees in Atlanta from 26 countries.

To help you make sense of Van Epp's reply, the book to which he refers is
his recently released "How to Avoid Marrying a Jerk".  PICK is his "How to
Avoid Marrying a Jerk" program by a less sassy name: PICK (Premarital
Interpersonal Choices & Knowledge).  And, LINKS is his new Marriage LINKS
Program (Lasting Intimacy through Nurturing, Knowledge and Skills).  He'll
train instructors in both programs at the Denver Smart Marriages Conference.
And, MP Wylie, who also presented in Singapore will also present her Journey
to Love for Singles program at the Denver Smart Marriages Conference.
- Diane  

> Diane,
> Thanks for asking.  Singapore went great! I did the PICK training for
> professors, social workers and matchmakers (quite the growing industry in
> Asia). The next day I presented a 2-hour seminar for the public followed by a
> book signing which were very well received. A participant from mainland China
> asked about getting the publication rights to the book for translation into
> Chinese. South Korea already purchased the rights to translate and publish the
> book in Korean. More to come on this and on the Spanish translation of the
> PICK and LINKS programs.
> 
> An organization that works with the Singapore Ministry of Community
> Development wants to set up a distribution center for production of my PICK
> and LINKS materials. And, they've invited me back in March for a Marriage
> Enrichment Conference (where I would present LINKS and train instructors).
>
> I think you know that MP Wylie was also invited and also presented a 2 hr
> session on her Journey to Love for Singles program.
> 
> John


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