Marriage and Caste in America/ Torn Asunder Training/Self Publishing/Basic Training/Fla Grant - 11/06

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- IMPORTANT NEW BOOK - MARRIAGE AND CASTE IN AMERICA
- TORN ASUNDER: MENDING INFIDELITY TRAINING IN MICHIGAN DEC 7
- SELF PUBLISHING EXCHANGE
- FREE "BASIC TRAINING FOR COUPLES" INSTRUCTORS: DC/NOV 14 & 15
- GRANT OFFERS HELP FOR COUPLES

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- IMPORTANT NEW BOOK - MARRIAGE AND CASTE IN AMERICA

This book should be on all our desks.  It's only $15.30 on amazon.
Please at least look at the cover - it's got to be one of the all time best
cover designs in history. - diane

Marriage and Caste in America:
Separate and Unequal Families in a Post-Marital Age
By Kay Hymowitz 

"Marriage and Caste in America is the best single book on the damage being
done to our nation by the explosion of divorce and nonmarital births.
Beginning with the widely ignored fact that it is minorities and the poor
who are disproportionately affected by family breakdown, this provocative
book presents a disturbing tale of cultural meltdown. Reading it is like
reading a cultural obituary."
‹ Ron Haskins

A generation ago Americans undertook a revolutionary experiment to redefine
marriage. Where historically men and women had sought a loving bond, largely
centered on the rearing of children, the new arrangement called for an
intimate‹and provisional‹union of two adults. Now, as Kay Hymowitz argues in
Marriage and Caste in America, the results of this experiment separating
marriage from childrearing are in, and they turn out to be bad news not only
for children but also, in ways little understood, for the country as a
whole. The family revolution has played a central role in a growing
inequality and high rates of poverty, even during economic good times. The
family upheaval has hit African-Americans especially hard, Ms. Hymowitz
shows, as Daniel Patrick Moynihan had famously predicted it would. While for
decades feminists and academics toyed with the myth of the strong single
black mother supported by kinship networks, black men drifted into
fatherhood without being husbands, without even becoming part of a family,
while black children were left behind. When Americans began their family
revolution, they forgot to consider what American marriage was designed to
do: it ordered lives by giving the young a meaningful life script. It
supported middle-class foresight, planning, and self-sufficiency. And it
organized men and women around "The Mission"‹ nurturing their children's
cognitive, emotional, and physical development. More than anything, Ms.
Hymowitz writes, it is The Mission that separates middle-class kids ‹ who
for all their overscheduling are doing very well indeed ‹ from their
less-parented and lower-achieving peers. In fact our great family experiment
threatens to turn what the founders imagined as an opportunity-rich republic
of equal citizens into a hereditary caste society.

About the Author

Kay Hymowitz has written extensively on education and childhood in America
in articles for the New York Times, the Washington Post, the Wall Street
Journal, and the New Republic, among other publications. She is a senior
fellow at the Manhattan Institute in New York City and a contributing editor
of City Journal. She lives in Brooklyn with her husband and three children.

"No one writes with more verve and wisdom about families as the incubators
of success or failure than Kay Hymowitz ‹ she's a national treasure."
‹William J. Bennett

"It takes courage and intellect to penetrate deliberate obfuscation. Kay
Hymowitz has them both. America could save itself a lot of trouble by paying
attention to what she writes."
‹Theodore Dalrymple

"Kay Hymowitz thoughtfully takes on the minimalists who say a marriage is
just a shack-up plus a piece of paper. Her elegant essays show that marriage
is an essential culture-preserver, poverty-fighter, and life-improver."
‹Dr. Marvin Olasky

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- TORN ASUNDER: MENDING INFIDELITY TRAINING IN MICHIGAN DEC 7

Full day (9am to 4pm) Torn Asunder training by Dave Carder in
St Joseph, MI (btwn Chicago and Grand Rapids)
Only $30 per person, Plus only $25 for the Torn Asunder Book and Workbook
For information about this class or to schedule Dave Carder to come to your
community to present a training contact him at: 714-990-1893 or
dave.carder at evfreefullerton.com

Or, take the training at the Smart Marriages Conference in Denver. This is
one of the highest rated sessions at the conference.  Here's the course
description from the Smart Marriages web site to give you more info about
the program: 

> 912 One Day - Monday, July 2, Denver at Smart Marriages
> Torn Asunder: Mending Infidelity
> Dave Carder, MA
> Learn to teach Torn Asunder couples groups with a structure to stabilize
> marriages in the first critical 90 days; differentiate types of infidelity and
> to start forgiveness and trust building; plus homework.  $50 spouse discount.
> Click for more information:
> http://www.smartmarriages.com/dave@evfreefullertoncom

And, here is the description of the Torn Asunder program from the
Smart Marriages Directory:

> Torn Asunder: Recovering from Extramarital Affairs, book and workbook
> Dave Carder, MFT.  This 90 day process will help you
> stabilize your relationship after infidelity enabling you to
> make decisions appropriate for both yourselves and your children. Learn
> together how to review of your history, learn the process
> of forgiveness, the rebuilding of respect and trust, and the development
> of effective conflict resolution skills.
> 714-257-4332
> Email: Dave.Carder at evfreefullerton.com
> Web:http://www.TornAsunder.org

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- SELF PUBLISHING EXCHANGE

> Diane,
> 
> Your members who are interested in self-publishing ought to consider the
> SelfPublishing Yahoo discussion group. The group's members exchange a
> tremendous amount of information and advice each day. The archives are
> available for searching after you join the group.
> 
> It's free to subscribe and easy to unsubscribe. Just go to
> www.yahoogroups.com and search for the group called SelfPublishing (one
> word). The forum is sponsored by the Small Publishers Association of
> North America (SPAN).
> 
> Virginia Murray
> Marketing Manager
> www.ActiveParenting.com

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- FREE "BASIC TRAINING FOR COUPLES" INSTRUCTORS: DC/NOV 14 & 15

> Together is Better The Campaign to Strengthen DC Families, Marriages &
> Communities - And - The Wedded Bliss Foundation
> Present: Basic Training for Couples: A Black Marriage Education Curriculum
> created by Dr. Rozario Slack and Nisa Muhammad
> 10am-5pm, Washington DC/ Certification provided.
> Learn how to conduct marriage education in your setting!
> This free training is open to professionals, community leaders, marriage
> activists, couples, faith leaders and anyone interested in helping
> couples strengthen their relationships.
> To register and for more information: 301-613-1316 or info at weddedblissinc.com

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- GRANT OFFERS HELP FOR COUPLES
A local organization dedicated to helping couples communicate better
recently received a $5 million federal grant.
MIAMI HERALD
Nov 5, 2006 
BY JULIE LEVIN

Couples looking to build the skills for a successful relationship will soon
have a new resource.

The U.S. Department of Health and Human Services Administration for Children
and Families recently awarded a $5 million, five-year grant to a
Weston-based organization that helps foster healthy marriages and families.

Part of the Healthy Marriage and Responsible Fatherhood grants, it will
provide much-needed money to help families throughout Broward, Miami-Dade
and Palm Beach counties.

''It is not yet in the public consciousness that love is just the beginning
to a great relationship,'' project director Seth Eisenberg said. ``What this
grant will do is help people understand that along with love, you take
skills and knowledge so you can build a relationship that will last a
lifetime.''

The grant was awarded to PAIRS, or Practical Skills for Emotional Literacy.
It was one of 225 organizations selected for the grant nationwide.

PAIRS is an education program for couples in any stage of a relationship --
married, living together, expectant parents, engaged, single, dating,
remarrying, separated or divorced.

It was established in the early 1980s by Weston resident Lori Gordon and the
late Rabbi Morris Gordon.

Gordon, a marriage and family therapist, began her career determined to help
children. She quickly realized the quickest path was through their parents.
'I realized if I was going to help children, I needed to help their parents'
relationship,'' said Gordon, who has authored several books.

PAIRS focuses on teaching skills and concepts that cultivate intimate
relationships. That, in turn, helps prevent the breakdown of families. It
all works around an idea called emotional literacy.

''It's built on the concept of understanding emotions in yourself and
others,'' Eisenberg said, ``how you have been affected by the experiences in
your life and how we tend to pay back people in the present for all the
things they really have nothing to do with.''

The grant makes the PAIRS program available to anyone, free of charge, for
five years, the length of the grant.

Until now, classes had been taught primarily at the Zoe Life Christian
Center in Plantation and the West Broward YMCA.

Eisenberg said they hope to have classes available throughout the tri-county
area in the next three months.

In addition to keeping couples together, the program has other practical
benefits. Eisenberg said engaged couples that complete the course receive a
discount on their marriage license.

PAIRS also will use the money to expand their PEERS, or Practical Exercises
Enriching Relationship, youth program to at least 10 high schools each year.
The program will target those schools where children are most at risk.

''Kids need a way to communicate what's going on with them,'' Eisenberg
said.

Florida was one of three states to receive the most grant money from the
federal program, with about $33 million in support services going to
strengthen Florida families over the next five years.

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