Americans have complex relationship with marriage - Gallup - 5/06

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- AMERICANS HAVE COMPLEX RELATIONSHIP WITH MARRIAGE
GALLUP NEWS SERVICE
May 30, 2006
Many supportive of unwed families, but most still seek marriage
by Lydia Saad

(I'm sharing the text here, but you should just click straight to the source
and read this piece with the charts and graphs.  Much preferred.  - diane
http://poll.gallup.com/content/Default.aspx?ci=23041
    

PRINCETON, NJ -- When USA Today asked what the subjects of his film "March
of the Penguins" have most in common with humans, director Luc Jacquet
answered, "They form couples and are faithful. It's the only way they can
raise the chick under extreme conditions."

Jacquet's rendering of love-struck penguin couples struggling to bring their
offspring into the world is touchingly humanlike. But marriage is often
viewed as a declining institution in U.S. society. Indeed, Gallup trends
show that the percentage of American adults who were married at the time of
the survey has fallen from a high of 77% in the 1960s to an average of 53%
since 2000. Simultaneously, the percentage of divorced Americans at the time
of the survey has grown from 3% to 11%, and the percentage either single or
living together has surged from 9% to 24%.

However, these data mask Americans' propensity to imitate their
tuxedo-feathered friends in trying out marriage, at least sometime in their
lives. Recent Gallup polling finds that nearly all U.S. adults -- 91% --
either have been married or plan to get married someday. Only 4% have ruled
out marriage, while 5% are unsure or refuse to designate their marital
status or intentions.

Why Marry?

While both are the marrying kind, people and penguins seem at variance when
it comes to the reason for doing so. Just 37% of Americans say it is very
important to them that an unwed couple legally marry when the couple has a
child together. Many more Americans (65%) say it is very important for a
couple to marry if the two are committed to spending the rest of their lives
together.

Relatively few Americans say it is not important to them whether people
marry in each of these cases: only 14% say this with respect to couples
spending their lives together, and 27% relative to couples having children.
But in the latter case, a large segment says marriage is only somewhat
important. The discrepancy in the percentage saying marriage is very
important in each of the two situations (65% vs. 37%) indicates that to
Americans, marriage is primarily a means of strengthening or sealing the
bond for a couple, not a contrivance to facilitate child rearing.

Older Generation Has Different Perspective

While these are the overall results, not everyone agrees. In contrast to
Americans under 65 years of age (32%), a majority of those 65 and older
(58%) think it is very important for unwed couples to marry if they've had a
child. Seniors are also more likely than younger adults to believe it is
important that committed couples take marital vows (80% vs. 62%).

In fact, there are strong generational patterns to both questions that
suggest the importance of marriage in U.S. society could be on the decline.
A majority of those 18 to 39 (57%) say it is very important to them that
couples committed to a lifelong relationship legally marry, but this lags
far behind the 80% found among seniors. Also, only 3 in 10 of this younger
group (30%) feels strongly about unwed couples marrying when they have
children, versus 58% of seniors.

Other notable distinctions in attitudes about marriage are seen according to
personal ideology. Most self-described conservatives (85%) say getting
married is very important when the couple plans to have a lifelong
relationship, but this falls to 54% among moderates and 43% among liberals.
Similarly, nearly half of conservatives say marrying for the sake of
children is very important, compared with 31% of moderates and 20% of
liberals.

The Forecast for Marriage

Marriage is thought by some observers to be dying in Scandinavia, where
extramarital cohabitation and having children outside of marriage are
becoming the norm. Whether the United States goes the same route may largely
depend on how U.S. social norms evolve (although government policies, such
as tax incentives to marry, could also have an impact).

At the moment, there is an enormous gulf in attitudes between young adults
and seniors about the morality of premarital sex: 79% of those 18 to 29
think this is morally acceptable, compared with only 42% of those 65 and
older -- a 37 percentage-point gap. There is a similar generational gap (34
points) on the question of having children outside of marriage.

The views of those 30 to 49 and 50 to 64 tend to fall somewhere between
these extremes, but the majority of these groups still agree with young
adults that these behaviors are morally acceptable. This suggests that the
more liberal social values young adults express today are likely to remain
with them as they age.

At the same time, the sanctity of marriage as a monogamous relationship
remains a universal value in American society. Only a small handful of
Americans of any age group thinks either polygamy or extramarital affairs
are morally acceptable.

Divorce is widely viewed as acceptable among all age groups -- a practical
perspective if nothing else, given that 28% of U.S. adults, according to the
latest poll, have been divorced at least once. The percentage divorced is
particularly high among those 50-64, an age group that is also more
accepting of the morality of divorce.

More Talk Than Action?

Young adults are highly tolerant of a couple's decision not to marry when
they decide to live together or have a child. This doesn't mean they,
themselves, will adopt these lifestyles, but the evolving cultural
acceptance makes it much easier for them to make these choices. Will any
remaining taboo against these lifestyles be lifted when today's seniors --
the grandparents of today's young couples -- are no longer around to pass
judgment?

For the moment, most young adults (18 to 29) seem headed down a fairly
traditional path of marriage. Three-quarters (76%) either are currently
married, were previously married, or plan to marry someday. Another 13% are
currently living together with a partner, and whether they ultimately marry
or persist in avoiding this convention remains to be seen.

Survey Methods 

These results are based on telephone interviews with a randomly selected
national sample of 1,002 adults, aged 18 and older, conducted May 8-11,
2006. For results based on this sample, one can say with 95% confidence that
the maximum error attributable to sampling and other random effects is ±3
percentage points. In addition to sampling error, question wording and
practical difficulties in conducting surveys can introduce error or bias
into the findings of public opinion polls.



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