Use Your Manliness for a Great Marriage/Father's Day Quotes - 6/06

Fri Jun 2 16:01:01 EDT 2006

NOW IS THE TIME to send your own Father's Day press releases - especially to
stations and newspapers in your own community. Here is Scott Haltzman's
release as an example or to send to press in your area with an offer to add
your own expertise, help them find father's to interview, etc. See Father's
Day quotes at end of this for more ideas that make the connection between
dads and marriage.  And, send yours to add to the quotes page.    - diane

Top Psychiatrist offers Father's Day Advice for Men: Use your Manliness for
a Great Marriage

June 2, 2006 ... Providence, RI
Contact: Elisabeth N. Galligan, Newberry PR
(401) 433-5965 
Web: http://www.secretsofmarriedmen.com/media.html

Dr.. Scott Haltzman, Psychiatrist at Brown University, wants to help
families stay together, so men can celebrate Father's Day in the same home
as their children.

PROVIDENCE, RI - April 18, 2006 - "Am I going to see Daddy today?" More than
40 percent of American children grow up without both parents in the home;
many children never see their dads -even on Father's Day. It's heartbreaking
for fathers, and devastating for children.

"The single best way to make sure a father and child are together on
Father's Day is to make sure the father never leaves the home in the first
place," says Dr. Scott Haltzman, author of "The Secrets of Happily Married
Men: Eight Ways to Win Your Wife's Heart Forever." "Often, men don't know
how to maintain a healthy relationship with the mother of their child. As a
result, about half of all marriages fall apart and after the divorce, most
children are raised by their mother, and the father's connection with his
children begins to fade."

Haltzman's book, chosen by Time magazine as one of the "Six Books for a
Better You in 2006," has a very businesslike approach that appeals to a man.
In it, he teaches that being proactive in the marriage prevents divorce and
leads to a better relationship between a man and the mother of his children.
As a couples' therapist and researcher, he urges men to take advantage of
their inborn abilities.

"For too long, experts have been telling men that to make marriage better,
they have to be softer, gentler, sweeter...more like women. Many men do feel
intense love on the inside, but they don't show feelings the same way that
women do. Because women don't see displays of emotion, they assume the
love's not there." Haltzman doesn't think the answer is in feminizing men,
"When men try to be more womanly, everyone's disappointed with the results."

For guys who want to keep their families intact, Haltzman offers these tips:

Keep your eye on the prize: After the vows are exchanged, many men shift the
focus from courting their wives to more pragmatic things, like career
development. Bad mistake. After the honeymoon, show you care by doing the
same courting behaviors you did before you got married. She needs to know
she's still # 1. 

Listen before you leap: Before you jump in to fix something, take time to
figure out what's really on her mind. Just listening, without talking, is a
good start. Once you really hear the problem, then you can take the right
steps to make things better.

Ask directions. Marriage is complex; it's a myth that being in love is all
you need. It's OK to ask for or seek help from a counselor or a book.

Think Positive: Pay extra attention to all the good things your wife brings
to your life, rather than focus on the negative interactions.

Pitch in: Men who help out with housework have happier marriages. Even if
you work hard outside the home, don't ignore household chores.

Invest long-term: Just because you're having relationship problems doesn't
mean you should bail. All relationships have bad times; most will rebound if
you hang in there. 

Leave a legacy: Being in a healthy marriage teaches children important
lessons about their own relationships. kids whose parents stick together
have less risk of divorcing themselves. So when your grandchildren celebrate
Father's Day, they'll be doing it in the home of both their parents.
About the Author

Scott Haltzman, M.D. is the founder of http://www.DrScott.com
<http://www.drscott.com/>  He maintains a private psychiatric practice in
Rhode Island and serves as Medical Director of Northern Rhode Island
Community Services. A sought after speaker on the lecture circuit, he has
given numerous presentations including the Smart Marriages conference and
the American Psychiatric Association annual convention.

Dr. Haltzman is available for interviews or speaking engagements. He has
been seen on the "Today Show", "Good Morning America", "20/20", and "The
Situation with Tucker Carlson", and has been cited in "Time Magazine",
"Glamour", "Psychology Today", "New York Times", the" Washington Post" and
other national media. His wit and insights have inspired audiences
throughout the country.

To contact him, email DrHaltzman at SecretsofMarriedMen.com.
<mailto:DrHaltzman at SecretsofMarriedMen.com.>

Call: (401) 247-9100 or (401) 235-7045

"The Secrets Of Happily Married Men: Eight Ways to Win Your Wife's Heart
Forever" (January 2006, ISBN: 0-7879-7959-7) by Scott Haltzman, M.D. with
Theresa Foy DiGeronimo.Publisher: Jossey-Bass, A Wiley Imprint Price:
$22.95/hardcover 

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And, you can see him at Smart Marriages Atlanta where he'll sign books in
the Exhibit area and present a Special Master Workshop Sat afternoon:

> 501
> The Secrets of Happily Married Men
> Scott Haltzman, MD
> What makes a man a good husband? Help men learn the secrets to winning their
> wives¹ hearts. Using their manly fix-it skills, men can improve their
> marriage, and find their own happiness in the process.

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- FATHER'S DAY QUOTES:

MEN AND MARRIAGE AND DADDIES SECTION:

> The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their
> mother.
> Theodore Hesburgh
> ***************
> Successful treatment of domestic violence must restore the sense of father as
> protector for the well being of women, children, and society-at-large.
> Children do not need fathers to fight and die for them; they need fathers to
> live for them, to value them, and to value what they most value - their
> mothers. A father who truly protects his children cannot possibly hurt their
> mother.
> Steven Stosny, compassionpower.com
> *****************
> According to an internationally known market research company, Iconoculture,
> a long time first marriage say, 25 years or more, has become a status symbol
> in corporate America.
> The Wall Street Journal
> ****************
> Example is not the main thing in influencing others. It is the only thing.
> Albert Schweitzer
> ****************
> Don't worry that children never listen to you; worry that they
> are always watching you.
> Robert Fulghum
> ****************
> I talk and talk and talk, and I haven't taught people in 50 years what
> my father taught by example in one week.
> Mario Cuomo  
> ****************
> . . . in the end, there is nothing a man can do that a woman can¹t, except be
> a father.
> Frank Pittman
> ****************
> Live so that when your children think of fairness, caring and
> integrity, they think of you.
> H. Jackson Brown, Jr
> ****************
> As the family goes, so go the children.
> Daniel Patrick Moynihan
> *****************
> Marriage orients men and women toward the future, asking them not just to
> commit to each other but to plan, to earn, to save, and to devote themselves
> to advancing their children's prospects.
> Daniel Patrick Moynihan
> *****************
> The principal objective of American government at every level should be to
> see that children are born into intact families and that they remain so.
> Daniel Patrick Moynihan
> *****************
> All children have the right to live in a two-parent, married family.  Talk
> about a Head Start program - these are the kids that get the real head start.
> Diane Sollee, 2001 ACF Head Start Conference
> *****************
> When there are kids involved, there's no such thing as divorce.
> Carl Whitaker
> ****************
> Getting married is the boldest and most idealistic thing that
> most of us will ever do.
> Maggie Gallagher, The Case for Marriage
> ******************
> Spoil your spouse.....not your children.
> Unknown
> ****************
> It is instructive that 87 percent of those incarcerated in American prisons
> either don't know who their father is or have not had any contact with their
> fathers in years.
> Herbert London, Hudson Institute
> ****************
> Ever wonder why people are so determined to reach for white picket fences,
> supposed normalcy, a nuclear family? Well, try growing up without one.
> Chuck Eddy, The Village Voice, 1/03
> *************
> Toddler in pajamas standing at the door waving goodbye to his dad.
> caption reads: "Bye, Daddy! Be a good boy!"
> The Family Circus by Bill Keane, 10-5-01
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