First Dance/ Newlywed resources/ Ozarks Marriage Conference - 8/06

Tue Aug 22 15:40:15 EDT 2006

- THE FIRST DANCE 
- MARRIAGE EDUCATION FOR NEWLYWED WOMEN
- OZARKS MARRIAGE INITIATIVE CONFERENCE/OLD LOVE

#############################
- THE FIRST DANCE 

> Diane, Is there an area code for the 288-3431 number to inquire about the
> first dance video?
> Yvette  

That 288 number is to attend the program in Richmond.  To order the video of
the 2-hour The First Dance workshop recording, call 800-241-8875.  To order
the program, itself, see
 http://www.smartmarriages.com/minis.html - diane

> Here are the descriptions of the Masters Sessions (video recorded) at Smart
> Marriages Atlanta for these two very highly-rated sessions and a link to order
> the teach-out-of- the-box programs. The two-hr sessions are available on DVD
> (video), CD, or MP3 - order at 800-241-7785.
> 
>> 756-701
>> African American Marriage Enrichment - MINI Lorraine Blackman, PhD
>> Learn tips for teaching this program that addresses the specific
>> issues facing African American couples. Perfect for church, school,
>> community, and private practice settings.
> 
>> 756-601
>> The First Dance/Take Back Your Wedding - MINI Bill Doherty, PhD,
>> Elizabeth Doherty Thomas Teach a program to help engaged couples, in
>> the face of complex & sometimes conflicted couple & family dynamics,
>> plan a strong, ³family-systems² based wedding that will lay a solid
>> foundation for life-long marriage.
> 
> To order the programs, visit this list of MINI trainings and click on the live
> links: http://www.smartmarriages.com/minis.html - diane
> 
############################
- MARRIAGE EDUCATION FOR NEWLYWED WOMEN

> Hi Diane,  My husband Tim and I attended the Smart Marriages Conference in
> Atlanta.  It was a great experience for us and has prompted me to start a
> group supporting women in their first 10 years of marriage.
>   
> Do you have any suggestions of a book, study, or website that would help me
> facilitate such a group?  A Christian or Catholic focus would be helpful, but
> is not a requirement.
>   
> We have found that there are lots of parenting groups for moms, but not alot
> focusing on growing a fantastic marriage!
> Lisa Roder 
> Laroder at sbcglobal.net
> 

Funny you should ask.  I was just thinking about planning an evening group
for "newlyweds" at the Denver conference.  Someone asked for one on their
conf evaluation form: "You have a group for singles, why don't you do
something for newlyweds?"  I was thinking of asking Barry McCarthy who got
rave reviews for his workshop and his book "Getting it Right the First Time"
to host this event - go over the tasks for the first years of marriage with
them.  He also has a book for "Getting It Right This Time" - so many
newlyweds are in remarriages.

You can check him out on the recording of his workshop - order at
800-241-7785 

> 756-507
> The Challenge of Getting it Right
> Barry McCarthy, PhD
> Whether it's the first or a subsequent marriage, it takes more than luck, love
> or finding your soulmate to get it right. Help newlyweds master the crucial
> tasks of the first years of marriage - or, remarriage.

You can find the book on the smartmarriages.com books page where there is a
live link to order it from amazon.

> Getting It Right the First Time: Creating a Healthy Marriage
> Barry and Emily McCarthy
> Brunner-Routledge, 2004, $10.40, 240 pgs   ISBN: 0415948290
> What  every couple needs to know to understand what really makes a marriage
> work. Clear, helpful guidelines for creating a healthy marriage and
> strategies, skills, and attitudes that to prevent disappointment, resentment
> and alienation from entering the relationship.  "The winning formula and the
> best wedding present you could give yourselves or a couple you care about." -
> Diane Sollee
> 
I'm also thinking that even though the the premarital and marital programs
are  written for working with couples, they could be easily adapted. They
lay out the tasks and skills and you just tweak to teach to women. Some that
spring to mind would be Hendrix's "Imago Connects"; Petty's "Married and
Loving It!"; Olson's Prepare/Enrich Mentor Package, etc.  (All also
available as recordings from the conference.)

Actually, I just remembered that The Basic Training for Couples folks, Nisa
Muhammad and Rosario Slack, will be introducing new versions for men and
women - Basic Marriage Training for Women - know these will be terrific but
from listening to the recording of their session, sounds like it would be
easy, in meantime, to adapt the curriculum to your use with a woman's group.

Or, maybe you should just include the men and use "10 Great Dates" - couples
can have such a hard time keeping up the date routine/romance AFTER they get
married. 

I'll bet there are some already adapted ready to go and I'm just not
thinking of them because it's that time of the afternoon .....I'll put this
out to the list and ask folks what they are using and bet we'll be reminded
of the perfect package.   - diane

########################
- OZARKS MARRIAGE INITIATIVE CONFERENCE/OLD LOVE

> Good morning Diane,
> We were thrilled that Joe Jones was featured on NPR. He is the primary
> speaker for our 2006 Fall Conference, "Building the Foundation" on Sept. 14.
> With conference fee of only $22 (early registration deadline Aug 25) and
> accommodations in Springfield so reasonable this is a good deal for anyone.
> Visit our newly revised website for complete conference information:
> http://www.ozarksmarriagematters.org  It will, soon, contain even more
> information, but it does feature a sample of the Loveseats video and couple
> stories which so many have asked about since Atlanta.
> Jennifer Baker
> Ozarks Marriage Initiative

I had to click just to hear "Old Love" again. That's the song that waltzed
us into the ballroom before each of the keynote sessions - that became our
"10th Anniversary" theme song.  Click to hear just a snippet, and there is a
link to order the CD:
http://www.ozarksmarriagematters.org/index.asp?pt=CONTAINERS&pf=cont6_link1_
text

- diane 

To SUBSCRIBE, UNSUBSCRIBE to this Free e-newlsit, or change your
subscription address, use the form at (http://www.smartmarriages.com). Click
Newsletter - in the column under the puzzle piece.

Please respect our copyright. If you wish to use any of our content send an
email and request permission.

This newslist shares information on marriage, divorce and educational
approaches.  Opinions expressed are not necessarily shared by members of the
Coalition.

This is a moderated list. Replies are read by Diane Sollee, editor. Please
indicate if your response is NOT to be shared with the list.  PLEASE include
your email address in with your signature.

To read ALL past posts to the newsletter, visit the Archive at:
http://archives.his.com/smartmarriages/

11th Annual Smart Marriages Conference, Denver Adam's Mark Hotel,
June 28-July 1, 2007
Pre-Conference Training Institutes June 26-28
Post-Conference Training Institutes July 2-3
Details: http://www.smartmarriages.com/conferencedetails.html

List your program in the Directory of Classes at
http://www.smartmarriages.com

Order conference audio & videos/CD/DVD/MP3s: 800-241-7785 or at
http://www.iPlaybackSmartMarriages.com

Coalition for Marriage, Family and Couples Education, LLC (CMFCE)
Diane Sollee, Director
5310 Belt Rd NW
Washington, DC 20015-1961
http://www.smartmarriages.com
202-362-3332 
diane at smartmarriages.com