On Monogamy - 8/20/06

[Smartmarriages]

- ON MONOGAMY 

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- SAVE YOUR ENERGY AND SANITY: JUST STAY FAITHFUL: "JUST WITH YOU"
>     
> Comment
> Save your energy and sanity: just stay faithful
> Cristina Odone
> Sunday August 20, 2006
> The Observer (London)

>> Monogamy has much to offer. We should trumpet its benefits far more loudly in
>> sex-education classes and teen magazines. The chastity pledge 'Just say no'
>> has failed to catch on; 'Just with you' should be an easier sell.

> 
> Syphilis is back. Chlamydia is out of control. Sexually transmitted infections
> went up 20 per cent between 2000 and 2004. This time, though, the epidemic of
> venereal diseases is not limited to youngsters raging with their hormones and
> against authority.
> 
> Increasingly, their mothers and fathers are victims, too. The number of
> syphilis cases treated among women aged 45 to 64 is up sixteenfold since 1996;
> incidences of gonorrhoea have more than doubled.
> 
> Who should we blame for this new trend? An urban myth dating back to the
> Seventies is of middle-class, wife-swapping sessions where men throw their car
> keys into a bowl and women pick a set at random and go off with the owner. But
> now, there are swinging singles parties, gaining new popularity among
> divorcees, with condomless sex as an added thrill.
> 
> There are few statistics for this kind of carrying on, but we do know that
> there is a cure for the diseases acquired by those who dabble in such
> unhealthy promiscuity: monogamy.
> 
> The serial shagger has long been a favourite in fiction: from Fielding's Tom
> Jones to Fleming's James Bond, the playboy's lineage is long and entertaining.
> Even in more feminist times, writers such as Rod Liddle and Nirpal Singh
> Dhaliwal, or Guy Blews, author of the newly published Marriage and How to
> Avoid it, tirelessly trot out the line that men are not meant for monogamy.
> 
> In so doing, they give fidelity a killjoy reputation, portraying it as a
> recipe for boredom and an excuse for a low libido. According to these men, a
> faithful husband is bound to develop an unhealthy interest in your daughter's
> teenage friends or an obsession with internet porn.
> 
> And yet. Think of Paul McCartney before the debacle with Heather Mills. One of
> the reasons for his iconic status was his famously monogamous relationship
> with Linda. A big part of David Cameron's appeal is his radiant uxoriousness,
> something that once stoked the stardom of the young Tony Blair.
> 
> Consider Paul Newman, married for more than 40 years to Joanne Woodward, and
> Patrick Swayze, still married to his childhood sweetheart: these actors seem a
> lot more appealing than, say, Jeremy Irons with his famously open marriage to
> Sinead Cusack.
> 
> Monogamy is, most appealingly, an energy-saving device which prevents you
> wasting time and effort on hunting new prey, deceiving a partner or curing a
> broken heart or bruised ego.
> 
> Preserve trust in this essential area of your life and you can reap tremendous
> rewards: the 100 per cent devotion of another human being fuels your ambition,
> supports you in your mission and helps you to overcome obstacles.
> 
> Monogamy has much to offer. We should trumpet its benefits far more loudly in
> sex-education classes and teen magazines. The chastity pledge 'Just say no'
> has failed to catch on; 'Just with you' should be an easier sell.
> 
> But how are we going to make monogamy a turn-on for grown-ups? Perhaps we
> should leave that to the researchers charting the rise in blindness,
> infertility, jaundice and genital warts that accompanies sexually transmitted
> disease.
> 

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