BIG WEEKEND: Gottman on NPR/ Marriage Savers/Black Marriage Day -3/04

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subject: BIG WEEKEND: Gottman/Marriage Savers/Black Marriage Day -3/04

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- MARRIAGE SAVERS TRAININGS IN SPRINGFIELD, OHIO & GRAND RAPIDS MICHIGAN
- JOHN GOTTMAN ON 'THIS AMERICAN LIFE'
- BLACK MARRIAGE DAY HIGHLIGHTS: THIS SUNDAY!
- MARRIAGE 101 THIS WEEKEND IN DALLAS
- WEEKEND AT THE MOVIES

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- MARRIAGE SAVERS TRAININGS IN SPRINGFIELD, OHIO & GRAND RAPIDS MICHIGAN

It's not too late to register for these complete Marriage Saver Trainings
this weekend, March 26 - 27, Fri 6:30-10:30pm and Sat 8:30am-5pm.

Mike and Harriet McManus will present the Springfield, Ohio Training -
For details, call Jeff Williams, 937 322-0789

Larry Ballard, Mid-West Director of Marriage Savers, will present the Grand
Rapids, MI training.  For details, call 616-831-2622

The core solution can be summarized in one sentence: In every church or
synagogue, there are couples with strong marriages who really could be of
help to other couples, but have never been asked, inspired or trained to do
so. Mentors will learn to strengthen couples across five stages of the
marital life cycle: Preparation, Enrichment, Restoration, Reconciliation and
Stepfamilies.

Visit www.marriagesavers.org for a complete spring schedule.

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- JOHN GOTTMAN ON 'THIS AMERICAN LIFE'

John Gottman will be featured on NPR's 'This American Life' with Ira Glass,
this weekend, March 26-28.  The show will be broadcast nationally on NPR
stations across the country.  Gottman, who with his wife, Julie, is
presenting a keynote session at the Dallas Smart Marriages Conference, will
be interviewed about his 30 years of marital research.  To find the radio
station and show time in your city, go to:  http://thislife.org/.  Click on
'Where To Listen' in the upper left side of the web page.

Here is the description on the show's website:

> The Sanctity of Marriage. Pictured is what happens when math and marriage mix.
> This is data from a study by Dr. John Gottman, a clinical psychologist and
> mathematician who has developed a nearly sure-fire method of determining
> whether a married couple is healthy or doomed to split up ­ all within fifteen
> minutes. He hooks his subjects up to various monitors and videotapes them
> arguing for fifteen minutes. The way they communicate is scored into positive
> and negative moments, generating charts like these. His accuracy rate,
> predicting who'll stay together? Ninety-four percent. This week, what Dr.
> Gottman sees in your marriage that you can't, and other stories from within
> and without the institution of marriage. Broadcast the weekend of March 26-28
> in most places, or available here via RealAudio next week.

P.S. Ira Glass is the son of Shirley Glass, author of "NOT Just Friends".


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- BLACK MARRIAGE DAY HIGHLIGHTS: THIS SUNDAY!

Black Marriage Day is March 28, 2004.  Join couples and singles in more than
50 cities around the country as they ³Celebrate the Joy² of marriage in the
Black community.  This is the second annual celebration sponsored by Wedded
Bliss Foundation and Black Enterprise Magazine.  For details visit
www.blackmarriageday.com. - Nisa Muhammad

Special highlights around the country include:

BALTIMORE:  Marriage matters in the city by the bay where couples and
singles will attend a conference featuring noted speaker and author Dr.
Tiy-E Muhammad.   443-677-1070, mzdee1914 at aol.com.

DC:  ³Celebrate the Joy² with workshops, panel discussions and candlelight
dinner featuring Ayo Handy Kendi speaking on Breathe Life Into Your
Relationship. Gifts, prizes and fun for couples and singles. 301-467-2116.

DALLAS: A city-wide marriage enrichment seminar, "Taking Your Marriage To
The Next Level", at St. Paul United Methodist Church, 4-6 pm. This free
event will feature local authors of marriage related books followed by
dinner at Tiki's Restuarant,  214-922-0000, revscp at yahoo.com.

DENVER: More than 65 churches in The Black Church Initiative will celebrate
with a host of events including a wedding. 303-831-4500, ccesj at attglobal.net

LOS ANGELES: An impressive program in the city of angels including celebrity
couples recognized for their successful marriages. 866-263-9954 or
www.lablackmarriageday.net
 
LOUISIANA: The Louisiana Family Council is sponsoring events around the
state.  In Shreveport, throughout the month, KDKS Hot 102.1 will air PSAs
daily on the benefits of marriage.  On BMD every hour for six hours they
will take calls from the audience on why they value marriage.  Each hour
they will choose a winner who will receive a "Healthy Marriage Basket"
filled with love music (donated by record labels/station), books on Black
marriage and love as well as candles, lotions, etc.  At the end of the sixth
hour, the station will select a grand prize winner, who will receive a free
night's stay and complimentary dinner at a local Casino.  318-746-1516 or
gailtate at att.net.

MILWAUKEE: Join a two-day celebration featuring a conference and Black
marriage Day Semi-Formal Dinner plus free workshops at various sites around
the city.   414-908-3342 or at lbuck at oic-gm.org.

NASHVILLE: A dinner celebration at the Shadowbrook Mansion with a live dance
band and a comedian on the ups and downs of married life. All couples will
supply a photo of their wedding day and a photographer will be on hand to
take "now" pictures. A complete dinner will be served free compliments of
the I.C. White Stone Foundation.  k4real_2000 at yahoo.com,  615-650-0892

NEW YORK: Shiloh Gospel Church will celebrate and invites all in the White
Plains area to join them.  914-948-0198 or  patduncanson at optonline.net.

OAKLAND: The city by the bay three-day celebration will let the world know
that marriage is for a man and woman.  510-418-4194 or chosenvc at pacbell.net

POCONOS: A weekend get-away to rest, relax and strengthen your marriage.
lnwhaley at yahoo.com.
 
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- MARRIAGE 101 THIS WEEKEND IN DALLAS
A NEW SMART MARRIAGES DIRECTORY LISTING:

> Marriage University: MARRIAGE 101: THE FUNDAMENTALS Marriage University brings
> you the HOW TO MANUAL - removes confusion and gives you the essential TOOLS to
> keeping a happy, lasting relationship. As marriage experts, we know what tools
> are essential. Our curriculum is research-based and ethically sound, so you
> can be confident you are receiving the best information available. Receive a
> take-home manual to use whenever you need to review. Our multi-media
> presentation is fast-paced and entertaining. For couples of any age, happily
> married or in need of some improvement. Basic Course, 9am-3pm, Plano, Texas:
> March 27 $249 per couple.
> Wendy Rotz 
> Greater Dallas, Texas area
> 972-562-6870 
> Email: marriageuniversity at hotmail.com
> Web: www.marriageuniversity.net

AND, check the Directory for courses in your area -
http://www.smartmarriages.com/directory_browse.html

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- WEEKEND AT THE MOVIES....

> Hi Diane, 
> I saw "Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind" and thought it was very
> interesting. I don't know that it is award material but it does give couples a
> lot to think about.  I think I told you about "Miracles." Although its a movie
> about the U.S. Hockey team that won the Olympics gold medal part of the movie
> is also about the coach and his wife.  Very positive portrayal of married life
> and its challenges.
> Anne Welker

> Diane, I also saw "Eternal Sunshine. . . " , but wouldn't nominate it - the
> couple is not married, they begin a sexual relationship the day they met, and
> then she moved in.  She is portrayed as a ditzy broad and he is pathetically
> handicapped socially.  Not good role models.  I liked the movie and the
> message that yes, we can get beyond our history to make a good relationship in
> the future, but it's not Marriage Impact Award material. I do nominate Big
> Fish - a wonderful movie about a loving, long-term marriage which is in the
> background of the meat of the story - a father and son who cannot communicate.
> The resolution had everyone in tears (especially the men).  This is a real
> father/son pix with a lovely backdrop of true love for the parents.  A winner!
> - Mary Moriarty 

> Dear Diane,
> I have seen the HBO original movie "Dinner With Friends", starring Dennis
> Quaid, Andie McDowell, Greg Kinnear and Toni Collete directed by Norman
> Jewison twice. It is a great marriage movie about the effect of one
> marriage on another. It is well written and acted. I would like to
> support its nomination for one of Our Marriage Movie Awards.
> Charles W. Taylor
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