IMPORTANT - Hotel $100 Early Departure Fee//the Bachelor - 4/02

Sun Apr 28 13:13:00 EDT 2002

subject: IMPORTANT - Hotel $100 Early Departure Fee//the Bachelor - 4/02

from: Smart Marriages

$100 Early Departure Fee:

If you are staying at the Crystal Gateway Marriott Hotel for the Smart
Marriages conference, please note: there is a $100 ³early departure fee.² If
your room is booked for longer than you plan to stay, adjust it NOW.  Also,
we advise you to confirm your reservation - 800-228-9290.  In addition to
confirming your arrival and departure dates, it¹s also a good idea to
confirm any special requests like a non-smoking room, suite, king,
roll-away, double/double, etc.

Also, if any of you will be canceling a hotel room, please cancel them
through me, not through Marriott so that I can transfer them to someone who
is looking for a room.  For hotel cancellations, email me your arrival and
departure dates, name on the reservation, and reservation number if you have
it. 

On Monday I'll post information on our overflow hotel arrangements.
- diane 
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TV review of "The Bachelor"

If you didn't see the show, they took this single guy who they thought a
future success story and created a "buyers market" for him with a room full
of women. They would all offer their "goods" to him and he would decide each
week who would be discarded next.  The last one left holding a rose would be
the "winner" and perhaps receive a proposal of marriage.

The most offensive act by the creators of the show was the way they tried to
pressure the "candidates" towards the one thing which short circuits
relationship building the quickest, namely sexual encounters.

The one person to make it to the final three who had strong values and high
moral ethics refused to take the bait and was eliminated because of the
conflicts that were created in taking the high moral ground.  ("Here's a key
to a fancy room in which we can stay overnight and have sex, how about it?
Gee I wonder why she got angry at the offer, she should have jumped at the
chance. Its part of the game and their willingness to do whatever it takes
to win. Right?")  It all played out like some low budget x rated movie only
with the video cameras being turned off just when the "sex sells" part of
modern TV productions was succeeding.

Then at the end who gets the nod?  Not the one person who was honest about
the fact that you don't just "win a contest" and get married because of it.
You develop a relationship and make sure its the real thing.  No, its our
little nymph (Devotee to the goddess Diana perhaps?) who boldly told the
entire world near the beginning of the series that she bought a trapeze
swing so she could have more creative sex.   So now she is invited back to
his place to live and play games for a while to see if they really are a
match.  But hold it! Wasn't that the same reasoning  he used to dump loser
number 23? (There were 24 total weren't there?) Wasn't it because she wasn't
sure she loved him and needed to make sure that he was the right one.  Who
knows, perhaps he was fearful that he would offer the last one standing the
rose and she would reject him.  Now there would have been an interesting
ending to the show don't you think? Perhaps he could have gone back to loser
number 23 and said: "Uh, well, you were my second choice, how about it?"
Then one by one each of the women could have sent him packing towards the
door as he counted backwards in an attempt to find someone to declare the
winner.

Place you bets here.  My bet is that after "bachelor number 1" gets tired of
swinging on the trapeze, he will decide that they just weren't right for
each other and move on to other relationships.  My verdict is that the score
is zero winners, including the entire viewing audience.

Ask Chaplain Kent 
godrilla at accessus.net
Advise Columnist For The Ashton
Gazette

(I need questions to answer for my advice column.  If anybody wants to toss
some scenarios my way for me to answer e-mail me.  I'll send back the answer
which will be printed.)

Church Pastor 
Military Chaplain 
Certified Counselor
President "Family Life
Services" of Northern Illinois

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