Soulmates/Moviestar Trends/To the Village book? - 4/14/02
cmfce at smartmarriages.com
Sun Apr 14 20:45:55 EDT 2002
subject: Soulmates/Moviestar Trends/To the Village book? - 4/14/02
from: Smart Marriages
REPORT FROM THE FIELD: CONGREGATION BY CONGREGATION....
Here is another example for your collection of what Smart Marriages can do
for a congregation.
We just finished teaching the course "How Not to Date a Jerk or
Jerkette." We had sixteen teens, 10 parents and three teachers (all three
of us trained at the Smart Marriage Conference). It was so well received
that the moms are going out to recruit other parents and teens to
participate in the next program.
Also want to share that our marriage study group is reading Pat Love's The
Truth About Love and I just heard from one of them that says she has gotten
more out of this book than any others she's read.
Note: The training institute for "How to Avoid Marrying a Jerk" by John Van
Epp will be held on Monday July 15 at the Smart Marriages conference.
Attendees will be certified to teach the course and will receive the
following materials, all included in the registration fee of $125.
Incredible. Plus you'll earn 7.5 hrs CEU.
How to Avoid Marrying a Jerk Materials Included:
* The Video Series Discussion Workbook Leader's Guide
* The Bible Study Discussion Workbook Leader's Guide
* The Leadership Workshop Cassette Program
Also note that you can order Pat Love's book The Truth About Love: The
Highs, Lows and How You Can Make Love Last Forever for only $10.40 on
amazon, just click:
Buy it now and get Pat to sign it at the conference. Pat Love and Sunny
Shulkin will teach an IMAGO Couples Education two-day training institute Wed
& Thurs, July 10 and 11 at the Smart Marriages conference. Course
description: "Learn to teach this new program which adapts the principles of
IMAGO Relationship Therapy into an educational format for couples. Teach
exercises that increase relationship success through transformation of the
self and the relationship. Qualify as an IMAGO Relationship Education
trainer and teach the program in any setting. $100 spouse discount. Plus
earn 15 hrs CE." Pat and Sunny will also teach Hot Monogamy on Friday and
How to Ruin A Perfectly Good Relationship on Sat night - register EARLY.
Their sessions are filling up!
To see the full list of institutes and materials included in the
registration fee, go to:
Hi, Diane, Here's the web site about a new trend that finds young movie
stars marrying rather than cohabiting. Now if we could just get them to
take marriage preparation classes, they might start a really positive trend.
TO THE VILLAGE BOOK AVAILABLE?
Thanks for sharing the ideas on "Taking Marriage Eudcation to the Village."
Great stuff! I'm hoping and praying I can attend the conference this year.
I was able to attend last year and it was wonderful! In the event, I can't
make it this year, however, can I purchase a copy of this booklet you are
putting together on suggestions for strengthening marriage relationships in
Yes, we'll make this widely available and affordable. Just watch this list
for when and how to purchase copies. And send your ideas. We're amazed at
all the great ideas people are thinking of. -diane
SOUL MATE MARRIAGE:
One of those "inter-polictial" (like interfaith) marriages that just goes
to show it's not about our differences, but how we handle them that makes a
marriage. - diane
Jewish World Review
April 11, 2002
Debra J. Saunders
A good marriage with an esteemed soul mate -- well, nothing beats it
> When I hear people talk about how difficult marriage is, I'm always stunned.
> Marriage is the easiest thing I've ever done. If you respect and trust your
> love, if you don't want to change your mate, the rest is all negotiations.
He met me through the newspaper. A liberal who had just written a book with
Ralph Nader, he said that I was the columnist he loved to hate. He would
yell at my wiseacre mug that ran with my column in the Los Angeles Daily
I met him through the radio. A column I had written so infuriated him that
his producer asked me to do an interview by phone one day when he was guest
hosting on KGIL. We sparred. We agreed to disagree. A good time was had by
We met in person at a station event.
We became friends.
Later, we became more than friends.
When I told my editor Tom Gray that I was going to marry Wesley Smith, he
laughed out loud. It took five minutes and an engagement ring to convince
Tom that I wasn't joking, and that we really were engaged.
At the tender age of 37, I married Wesley. A few months later, The San
Francisco Chronicle called, and here we are, 10 years later, celebrating our
In one area, Wesley is like a kid. He covets the moments when he shows up in
my column, and is a little disappointed that he doesn't turn up in this
space more often. Still, he understands that I have a more conservative
approach to column-writing. I downplay the personal and strive to focus my
column on issues and arguments.
Also, I started writing a column as a single woman, and it annoyed me how
many female columnists wrote about their husbands and kids.
Just this once, I'd like to use this space to thank Wesley for the 10 best
years of my life.
By the time we met, I thought the odds were pretty high that I would not
marry. That was fine. Better no marriage than a bad one.
But a good marriage with an esteemed soul mate -- well, nothing beats it.
The late Bob Forsyth -- the legendary journalist turned spokesman -- used to
say that writing a book required so much discipline that he only knew one
person who has written one, Wesley. In fact, Wesley has written more than 10
And the books keep getting better. Author Dean R. Koontz wrote that Wesley's
latest and best, "Culture of Death, The Assault on Medical Ethics in
America," provided "the best survey of utilitarian bioethics written for a
When I hear people talk about how difficult marriage is, I'm always stunned.
Marriage is the easiest thing I've ever done. If you respect and trust your
love, if you don't want to change your mate, the rest is all negotiations.
Wesley has made me a better person. Years ago, he decided to stop lying. (Of
course, we've never lied in print. The pledge was to end telling little lies
and white lies.) I joined him. I won't say that we never lie, but I will say
that we can go months on end without lying, and I feel better for it.
I can honestly say that in 10 years of marriage, I have never lied to
Wesley. And I know he has never lied to me.
I'm even writing this column on the sly on Sunday, so that when he asks me
what I worked on Monday night, I can tell him the truth and still keep this
column a surprise.
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