Causation/Newlyweds getting older/Happily married health - 11/17/01

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subject: Causation/Newlyweds getting older/Happily married health - 11/17/01

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WHY MARRIED MEN EARN MORE - RESEARCH?

Diane,
Before everyone gets on the bandwagon to push women to stay home, rather
than working outside the home, please note that this study by Chun and Lee
on why married men earn more, makes a fundamental mistake: correlation is
not causation.  
Chun and Lee point out that the married men who earn more are the ones whose
wives are home taking care of the children and household tasks.  They
conclude that this is because the men are, therefore, freed up to work
longer and harder.  Glaringly missing is how they rule out the other logical
possibility that couples with a high-earning husband and stay-at-home wife
are able to choose for the wife not to work outside the home precisely
because the husband earns enough to support them.
Thank you,
Karen Shira Belford, LCSW
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Diane, 
Guess it was inevitable, but there's a new web site called smartdivorce.com.
They have information like: Self Help Divorce Kits, Divorce Planner,
Collaborative Divorce, Divorce Recovery, Military Divorce, etc.  I at first
thought it might be an offshoot of Smart Marriages, but it doesn't appear to
be related to you. 
TJ Cullers

No, there is no relationship. I didn't know the site existed. Thanks for the
heads up. - diane 
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NEWLYWEDS GETTING OLDER/CANADA:

National Post 
November 16, 2001

Newlyweds getting older, StatsCan says Average bride 31 years old

Sean Fitz-Gerald 

Canadians are waiting longer than ever to get married, according to figures
released by Statistics Canada, leading some to believe would-be brides and
grooms are being distracted by visions of diplomas and dollar signs.

The data, collected in 1998 and unveiled yesterday, showed the average age
of newlyweds to be well over 30, a noticeable increase from a decade ago.

The average age of a bride, including those getting remarried, was 31.1
years old, up from 28.6 in 1988. Grooms also aged, tying the knot at 33.7
years, instead of 31.2 a decade earlier.

"A lot of people live in common-law these days," said Leslie Geran, an
analyst with Statistics Canada. "They wait until later to get married or
don't get married at all."

The statistics, collected annually by the organization since 1921, also
showed the ages of first-time brides and grooms have risen.

On average, women marrying for the first time were 27.6 years old in 1998,
more than two years older than during the previous decade. Rookie grooms
were 29.6 years old, compared with 27.6 in 1988.

Quebec had the nation's lowest marriage rate and was home to the largest
decrease in marriage ceremonies between 1997 and 1998.

"I think socially in the last 15 to 20 years, it has become widely accepted
that a young man and a young woman can move in together and nobody asks
questions and nobody looks at them like they are not living normally," said
Evelyne Lapierre-Adamcyk, a professor at the Université de Montréal.

The trend of waiting to tie the knot is also linked to the increasingly
diverse job market, leaving both men and women wanting to complete
post-secondary education before settling down.

"Increasingly, we've become so materialistic, our wants and desires are so
high, we're postponing childbearing until we have some of those material
kinds of things in place," said Dr. Berna Skrypnek, a professor of human
ecology at the University of Alberta. "And because we're postponing
childbearing, we're postponing marriage."

Dr. Beth Haverkamp, a counselling psychology professor at the University of
British Columbia, said, "People feel they have greater choice and there's
certainly not the social stigma attached to it that there used to be. I
would see the delay of ages for first marriages as a positive thing."

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REAL AGE TIP OF THE DAY:
11/16/01 
Social Advantage

Working on your relationship with your partner may be
one of the best ways to increase your chance of overcoming
disease.

In one study of people with heart disease, participants
who were happily married appeared to outlive the
participants who were involved in unhappy couplings.
Research suggests that supportive partners may help their
spouses stick to therapy recommendations and also help
reduce stress levels.

RealAge Benefit: Having a good social support system of
family and friends can make your RealAge up to 3.5 years
younger. 

To learn more about this tip, go to:
http://mailer.realage.com/click?q=a1-AfftQ-ZJdjK0MZ4lklEacPOS


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