Resources for those fighting divorce

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subject: Resources for those fighting divorce 

from: Smart Marriages


I have some suggestions for Terri but I'm sure she would like
to hear from others.  This is a great letter, and definitely
one that will spur us to action.  We'll develop
a separate page of resources for those who wish to contest
or avoid a pending divorce.  What would you add to such a page?
- diane sollee

For people who have yet to be married or who are in reasonably 
satisfactory marriages or even those in troubled marriages, your site 
offers a wealth of information.  But for people like me, separated due 
to the infidelity of a spouse or other reasons, and whose spouse is 
certain that things cannot work out and therefore refuse 
assistance/therapy/help/counselling/classes of any kind, there are 
few resources available.  Perhaps it would be a possibility for you to 
include a page of resources for those of us facing divorce even 
though we don't want one... legal resources or guides or articles, 
counseling/therapy or other support or assistance that might help us 
either fight this or deal with it would be very welcome. 

It seems that most health insurance plans limit coverage for 
counseling to the point where one has to accept a sub-standard 
therapist or one who has not been trained in any effective marriage 
saving or education programs.  So far, I have not found any support 
groups FOR marriage anywhere near me, and the cost of real 
therapy with a qualified counselor is more than I can afford. 

Another issue for many or some of us facing divorce:  The cost of 
legal advice.  I would like to be able to get help from a qualified 
attorney who cares about marriage, even in the face of divorce - but 
even if I could find one in my small town, the cost is more than I 
could ever afford.  Even mediation is out of my reach at this point - I 
have not one penny extra and have several unmet expenses every 
month.  I am not saying that your site should provide answers to 
legal questions, but perhaps an index of attorneys that belong to or 
support the Marriage Coalition would be possible?  It would be of 
value to me, that is certain. 

Thank you for the service and information you are providing.  Divorce 
has never been in my life plans, but it is forcing its way into my life 
anyway - It is a sad thing that it takes two people to enter a marriage 
covenant and contract, but only one of them to get a divorce.  Maybe 
your organization will make a real difference soon! 

Terri A. Gianola 

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