cmfce at smartmarriages.com
Sat Sep 2 18:31:35 EDT 2000
subject: Rituals/McManus schedule/replies
from: Smart Marriages
ANNIVERSARY MARRIAGE RITUAL:
Here's another beautiful marriage ritual. To read many others,
or for guidelines on adding yours, visit http:www.smartmarriages.com and
on Marriage Rituals.
Here's a ritual that my husband and I have been sharing for the 22 years
our marriage. We have kept a diary of our anniversaries every year.
the kids are in bed on our anniversary, we pull out the diary, light the
wedding candle that was on the altar of the church when we married, and
reread the diary together. In it, we've recorded what we did to
the day, any highlights of the previous year, changes that have come to
family (like the birth of our kids, moves, and so forth). It's a nice
for us to see the ebbs and flows of our relationship, and to remember how
we've been blessed in all of it. It takes us a little longer each year
read the diary (by the 50th, we figure we'll need to start at about 2:00
the afternoon), but I can't imagine doing the anniversary without it.
Martha and Dana Flemming
Blaine Fowers book, Beyond the Myth of Marital Happiness: How Embracing
the Virtues of Loyalty, Generosity, Justice, and Courage can Strengthen
Your Relationship, is
now available in bookstores and on amazon.com. See the listing on the
on the Books by the Experts page. Jossey-Bass Publishers He presented
on this topic at the Denver conference and received very favorable
For a tape of this session, call 800-241-7785 and order tape #750-703
LORI GORDON REPLY:
Regarding the McManus column on Making Marriage a Political Issue
Why is it so impossible to get across that Relationship Education is
its at? And only with that will marriages hold up. Not with greater tax
advantages or condemnation of fatherless children. And why won't
and government fund Relationship Education? The most basic core issue
being addressed. Nor funded. Why do we have to struggle so to make the
obvious basic needed learning happen? Everytime I teach, people are
kids eat it up, teachers love it. What do we have to do to make it
that the knowledge goes out there?
I am likely to be divorced soon because of an affair my husband is
still having. I wish that my state observed its own divorce laws, as he
has no legal grounds to divorce me - New York does not have
\"irreconcilable differences\" but has, instead, stretched the
\"cruelty\" grounds to mean that it is cruel to be married if you no
longer wish to be... I am interested in any movement to preserve
marriage and reduce divorce rates! Thank you for being here...
MCMANUS TRAVEL SCHEDULE:
The governors of three states -- Arkansas, New Mexico, and Texas --
among those hosting events for Mike and Harriet this fall. Mike and
will teach and train at all the following events - all of which are
open to the public. Note that schedules
are subject to change. Check with the person listed or with Marriage
Savers for updated information at 301-469-5870.
For full information and descriptions on each event see
Sept. 12: Portland, OR: two-hour session
with Portland area pastors and Oregon leaders of Community Marriage
across the state. Call Tom Dressell 503 655-1489.
Sept. 21-24: Kansas City, MO: The American
Assembly will gather 100 national leaders to develop a consensus on how
to strengthen marriage with both private and public sector.
Sept. 26: Little Rock, AR: Governor Mike Huckabee is gathering the
state's top religious leaders to consider supporting
the planting of Community Marriage Policies across the state.
Contact Chris Pyle 501 682-2345.
Sept. 27-28: Hot Springs, AR: two-day training to create Marriage Saver
Congregations Call Jim Gilley 318 631-6240.
Sept. 29-30, Mena, AR: organize a Community Marriage Covenant and
clergy to create a Marriage Savers Church. Call Frank and Edith Hebert,
October 2-3: Houston, TX: Governor George Bush's "Faith In Action
Conference" on how churches can reduce the divorce rate. Call Diana
Carson, 315 655-5726.
Oct. 19-21: Albuquerque, NM: Gov. Gary E Johnson's Governor's Summit on
Marriage and Parenting organized by State Sen. Mark Boitano. Includes
training to create Marriage Saver
Congregations Friday night and all day Saturday. Call Pat Owen, 505
Oct. 27-28: Philadelphia suburbs (Montgomery County) Leaders of PAIRS
will organize a Community Marriage Policy®. Call Rita DeMaria, 215
Nov. 8-11, Louisiana Family Forum, affiliated with Focus on the Family,
signing Shreveport, Monroe and Ruston Community Marriage Covenants,
includes Marriage Savers training Friday night and all day Saturday.
Call Rev. Gene Mills or Judge Darrell White at 225 344-8533.
Dec. 1-2: Washington, DC: Fourth National Training in How to Create a
Marriage Savers Congregation. Featured speakers/trainers: George Gallup,
Dr. Barbara Markey, Mike & Harriet McManus, Father Dick and Phyllis
Joe & Michelle Williams, Rev. Dick Dunn, Rev. Jeff Meyers and LeRoy
Ann Gries and Richard Albertson. Pastors are encouraged to bring 3 Mentor
Couples to be trained as a team to both events. Those interested in
being certified to be National
Marriage Savers Trainers must attend this semi-annual two day training.
To register: 301 469-5870.
Feb. 9-10: Chattanooga Marriage Savers training for clergy and Mentor
Couples in how to create a Marriage Savers Congregation. Call
Julie Baumgardner, First Things First, 423 267-5383. Divorces have
fallen 19% since clergy there adopted a Chattanooga Marriage Policy.
WHY IT DIDN'T LAST:
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And You Wonder *Why* It Didn't Last
She married him because he was such a "strong man"
She divorced him because he was such a "dominating male."
He married her because she was so "fragile and petite."
He divorced her because she was so "weak and helpless."
She married him because "he knows how to provide a good living."
She divorced him because "all he thinks about is business."
He married her because "she reminds me of my mother."
He divorced her because "she's getting more like her mother every day."
She married him because he was "happy and romantic."
She divorced him because he was "shiftless and fun-loving."
He married her because she was "steady and sensible."
He divorced her because she was "boring and dull."
She married him because he was "the life of the party."
She divorced him because "he never wants to come home from a party."
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