48 Hours/GMA/Doherty in TN/shift work/ADHD

Tue Oct 10 17:43:05 EDT 2000

subject: 48 Hours/GMA/Doherty in TN/shift work/ADHD

48 HOURS:

48 Hours is working on a show on forgiveness.  In light of the new info
coming out on how important marriage is for the wellbeing of both kids and
adults, they want to do a segment on forgiveness after an affair.  They are
looking for a couple who is currently experiencing - or who has recently
gone through the process of healing. If you'd be willing to go on and help
others find the path let me know and I'll connect you to the producers.
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REMEMBER GOOD MORNING AMERICA WED 11th: Waite and Gallagher at 8:30am.
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Bill Doherty will present his parenting seminar, Take Back Your Kids:
Reclaiming Family Time, Family Rituals and Parental Leadership Sat,
Oct 14 at UTC, 8:30 a.m. to noon.

He'll focus on families suffering from "time famine", "scheduled
hyperactivity" and parental anxiety about how to combine love and limits.

According to Doherty, families have lost control of time, and family rituals
such as dinner, weekend outings, and vacations have suffered. Many parents
have lost confidence in their leadership, treating their children
as entitled consumers of parental services who must be catered to. The
workshop will look at what is going on and how families can reclaim family
time, revive rituals, regain leadership and take back kids from the peer and
consumer cultures.

Topicsinclude:  Types of family rituals, Phases of
family rituals and Ways to create or improve your family rituals

$15 per person. To register call First Things First 423/267-5383.

Doherty will also present this seminar at the Orlando Smart Marriages
conference.  

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SHIFT WORK:

Response to question by Gloria Miller on effects of shift work and divorce
rates. Check out the article by Harriet Presser, Nonstandard Work Schedules
and Marital Instability in Journal of Marriage and the Family, February,
2000 Volume 62, Number 1. Harriet Presser can also be reached at the
University of Maryland. Theodora Ooms, Couples and Marriage Policy Resource
Center. 
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 This is in response to Rep. Miller - I am a female
police officer who, when married worked afternoons and midnights.  At the
time I was on midnights my husband told me I was a grouch and I did not
believe him.  After our divorce I had an opportunity to work days for four
months and then was pushed back to midnights, After returning to the
midnight shift I called my ex husband and apologized - becuase he was right,
I just didn't see it before.  I can not say this was our only problem, but
it 
did contribute a lot.

Rep Miller should be able to get information from unions ie: police,
firemen, factory workers etc. Sincerely Julie Nutter

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ADHD: 
Is anyone on the list aware of data comparing the number
of children diagnosed with Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD, or ADHD) from
intact families with those from divorced families?

Thanks, Elizabeth Marquardt >>

You know, you gotta be careful doing things like this.  Some of that might
be passed down by genetics....and is it more likely that two people who
marry where one or both might be ADD or ADHD would divorce?  This is a very
complicated question, though it might not seem so in the beginning.

Anita Fretwell, school teacher

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 ADULTRY:

> What do these findings tell us about marriage that has been destroyed by
> ADULTERY.  How can children survive that?  Especially when they know what
> happened?  How do they learn to trust others as they grow up, when they see
> their own father hurt their mother in the most terrible form possible?  How do
> you decide to stay together, to pick up pieces, or to ever TRUST that man
> again?  There should be a study done on children of ADULTEROUS parents.  How
> do they survive 10, 20 years down the road?  Do they commit?  Do they fall in
> love?  Do they trust? Are they jealous of their partners?  How do women
> survive this?  I am going crazy over my husbands almost 3 year affair with his
> secretary. How in the name of God do I find some relief from the visions in my
> head?  From the crying, from the worthlessness that I feel?  Are there any
> support groups for women, who for some stupid reason have stayed with their
> spouses?  I did it for the kids.  But we fight constantly. Is that better for
> them than divorce?  I hope someone out there has some answers.  I am going
> crazy here.
> 
> SPR Please visit http://www.dearpeggy.com  - this comprehensive web site on
> recovery from affairs will help you.
> 
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