FamilyLife1st on CBS/replies

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Hi - I'll see many of you very soon in Denver.  I'm looking forward
to it! - diane sollee
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SET YOUR VCRs: 

The CBS Evening News on Saturday June 24 will 
feature Bill Doherty and Family Life 1st the Minnesota program whose goal 
is to
help parents "take back their kids" from their over-scheduled 
extra-curricular
lives.  FamilyLife1st had 3,600 hits to their website the first week it 
was 
up.  
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Response to article about treating internet sex addiction

Treating online addiction by sending eMail to persons needing assistance 
seems a little askew to me.  I can understand having a Web site to 
connect 
with addicts (get 'em where they are), but actually serving them over the 
Net seems to contrary to the concept of recovery.

UNLESS, of course, if "recovery" is defined as replacing one surfing 
activity that is deemed negative or destructive (like the specific subset 
of 
online addiction which is pornographic or adulterous) with other forms of 
surfing (i.e. to self-help, self-education sites).  Then, possibly, some 
form of "recovery" is possible but certainly not full recovery.

Personally, I believe this may be (in many cases) like fueling the fire 
with 
gasoline instead of kerosene.  The addiction is not extinguished unless 
replacement behaviors are introduced and substituted for compulsion to go 
to 
the Net.

Unfortunately, the convenience and accessibility of the Net cannot be 
used 
as a justification for counseling online addicts over the Internet.
Counseling online addicts through eMail is encouraging them to go to the 
Net 
for their answers -- instead of rewarding them with a more diverse 
lifestyle 
by telling addicts, "The first step is to push back your chair and walk 
away 
from the monitor."

S. Webb
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----- Original Message -----
From: Smartmarriages© <cmfce at smartmarriages.com>
Sent: Thursday, June 22, 2000 9:07 AM
Subject: ^^HERITAGE FOUNDATION CALLS FOR POLITICAL LEADERSHIP ON MARRIAGE

Diane,
Great article. . . Except one state has spent SOME money on marriage 
skills
classes - Arizona.  We are in the process of getting appointments to the
Commission now.  See you at the conference.   - Rep Mark Anderson, AZ

Representative Anderson will present as part of the "What States Can Do"
seminar on Sunday, July 2, in Denver.  



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