URGENT cohabitation request/DAADS/Connections/Foundations/
cmfce at smartmarriages.com
Fri Jul 7 10:34:46 EDT 2000
subject: URGENT cohabitation request/DAADS/Connections/Foundations/
from: Smart Marriages
A wire-service reporter is doing a conference follow-up piece
on cohabitation and needs couples to interview. He'd like both
never-married who are either engaged, considering marriage or not,
and those who are divorced and, once bitten, living together instead
Please email me if you - or someone you know - are willing to be
interviewed and where you can be reached via email or by phone.....
and some of the particulars.
Need this by end of day today, July 9th. - diane
Wanted to let you know what an "awesome" conference in Denver. I learned
much and came back with some great resources. The Plenary speakers were
fantastic. I was very moved by Dr. Hargrave's presentation - awesome!
Thanks for ALL your hard work to make this possible!
Obviously, we're back. The conference was "awesome" and I just want
to thank that hundreds of presenters, attendees & volunteers for making
Every session - including the marriage statement press
conference - was audiotaped. Get an order form at 800-241-7785.
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Thanks again for another outstanding conference. It is the most
professional and enriching gathering I attend each year. The clergy/laity
meetings each morning were a real treat - hope they continue.
Would you please ask your readership to contact me via e-mail if
they have or use a newly married program that works. Kathy and I are
a manual on newly married ministry for the National Association of
Family Life Ministers and we are having trouble finding successful models
Steve Beirne, SKPubs at aol.com
(Note: Steve & Kathy edit the Foundations Newsletter. See CMFCE Directory
of programs for information and link.)
Is there a way to obtain a copy of the CONNECTIONS curriculum? I am a
pastoral counselor in upstate New York who would love to take such a
into our school system. As a therapist, I am dealing with the
left in the wake of broken marriages. Thank you in advance.
Dean S Flemming II, M.Div., CASAC, ACHT
Yes, here is the Connections info from the CMFCE web site Directory:
CONNECTIONS Youth Relationship Skills Series -
Dating and Emotions and Relationships and Marriage
Help teens prepare for healthy dating relationships and successful
marriages with these programs developed by Charlene Kamper, MA,
CFLE, an experienced teacher. They are skill-based, interactive and
ready-to-use. Contents: Self-understanding and self-esteem; Healthy
dating relationships and signs of potentially abusive relationships;
Effective communication and conflict resolution skills; An awareness of
skills needed for a successful marriage. Appropriate for schools and
youth groups. FREE sample lessons available! Instructor kit - $95.
The Dibble Fund for Marriage Education
Berkeley, California 94707-0881
800-695-7975 or 510-528-7975
Email: DibbleFund at aol.com
Visit the CMFCE web site link on School and Youth Programs for additional
There will be a natinal satellite broadcast on marriage and couples
education on September 7, 2000. The satellite is a project of the
Extension Marriage and Couples Education Work Group with funding from the
American Association for Family and Consumer Sciences, National Extension
Association for Family and Consumer Sciences, and Texas A & M Agricultural
Extension Service Family and Consumer Science program.
For details and registration information, please visit the following web
This is from Aaron Larson's Dads at a Distance Newsletter:
I just got back from a week long conference and I thought I would share
the activities that I did while I was away for my 2 year old son.
Just before I left I took him to the grocery store and he got to pick out
package of cookies. Whenever he was having a hard time my wife would ask
if he wanted a cookie from dad and then she would pull down the cookies
It's a simple activity but it reminds your child that you are thinking
him or her. If you are already gone you can send home a box of cookies
accomplish this activity.
I also wanted to share a story with you about why it is so important to
long distance relationship building activities. This is especially
those of you who are in the military and if you give deployment briefings
would suggest that you read this story during the briefings.
My Father's Voice
by Deena M. Beck Ehlert
With supper finished it was mom's time for a break from her children. It
our time to be with dad. Cindy, my eight-year old sister, got the book
Tom, my six-year old brother, and I (four-years old)
climbed on our gray couch. Book in hand, Cindy joined us on the couch and
all waited for mom to start the old reel-to-reel tape player. Dad was
airplanes in Vietnam for the Air Force. His one-year
isolated tour would be over soon and he would be coming home.
Throughout the year of his physical absence, our family received at least
tape a week from dad. Mom played a section to us every day. Dad began
day's session by asking each of us how our day had
gone and what we had done. Speaking to the tape machine as if he could
every word, each of us told him about our adventures. Unbeknownst to us,
wrote down our responses so dad was kept up-to-date. In the subsequent
he praised our good deeds and gently corrected our errors. After everyone
dad their tales, he read to us from the book mom had sent. Cindy turned
pages while Tom and I followed along to his voice. Sometimes dad recorded
himself teaching English to Vietnamese children in his neighborhood. It
always fun to hear the children talk in the strange language. Today, I
remember the stories dad read, but I do remember the feelings I felt. I
my father loved me because he talked to us nearly everyday, albeit by
Near the end of dad's year away, mom told us we were going to meet dad in
California. We would be staying with Aunt Jenna Vee and Uncle Jack until
arrived. The house was big, and it had a swimming pool! Mom loaded us all
and we made the few days journey from Texas to California. I was anxious
hear dad's voice again but had no recollection of what he looked like.
The day before dad was scheduled to arrive, all of us were lounging
swimming pool. Cindy was diving off the diving board, and Tom and I were
holding onto the edge of the pool because our feet
could not touch bottom. Tom and I were working our way back to the steps
get out of the pool when the gate in the fence opened. A tall man dressed
uniform walked through the gate. My sister jumped
off the diving board, ran squealing at the top of her lungs towards the
and threw herself into his arms. Mom walked in behind the man, yelling at
Cindy to get off him because she was getting him all wet. While hugging
sister and laughing at mom, the man embraced mom then kissed her.
Puzzled by all the commotion, Tom and I looked at each other and silently
wondered who our sister and mother were hugging. Soon, the tall,
and wet man disentangled himself and walked toward my
brother and I who were still hanging on the side of the pool. He arrived
the pool's edge and smiled down upon us. He looked so tall. With the
of a four-year old, I looked up at the man and
asked, "Are you my father?" He burst into tears, knelt down, pulled us
out of the pool and into his arms, and said, "Yes. I am your father." The
moment I heard his voice I recognized it as my dad's
because it was the same voice I heard so frequently reading me stories on
tape. This was the voice that asked us questions and listened so intently
our answers. He seemed not to care that we were getting his uniform even
wetter. Tom and I both threw our arms around his neck as my father's
tightened around us.
This is the first time I recall seeing my father. The man with the loving
Copyright © 2000 by The National Institute for Building Long Distance
Relationships. All Rights Reserved.
There is also a copy of this story on our website.
If you have a story that you would like to share email it to me and I
it up on the website.
Please forward this story and activity to those who you think would
Dads at a Distance (Daad)
Aaron Larson, Director
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