on conference/Adolescent program/Wing to Wing/etc

Wed Jan 19 19:05:00 EST 2000

from: Smart Marriages

Sorry, it was too late at night and I mistyped the url.  

The address for conference updated info should be
http://www.smartmarriages.com/conferencedetails.html

I've also just made corrections/additions to the keynote and
institute pages -links to those from the page above.  We're beginning
to get the institute info filled in regarding exactly what the various
institutes qualify attendees to do and which training materials are
included.  See: http://www.smartmarriages.com/institutes.html
We'll fill these in as we go along. 
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Don Gordon's "Parenting Adolescents Wisely" CD-ROM program --targeted 
toward
preventing behavior problems, delinquency, and substance abuse in intact
and divorced families -- was just named an Exemplary Program
by the Center for Substance Abuse Prevention and Office of Juvenile
Justice and Delinquency Prevention!  To get this rating, a program must 
meet
very strict criteria applied by a nationally renowned panel of experts.  
Gordon
will present Parenting Adolescents Wisely at the Denver Smart Marriages 
conference and will demonstrate the use of the CD and also the spin-off 
adaptation
for parents.  In addition to the workshop you can check this out at his 
exhibit.
I've seen it and it's an amazing application of the technology - it's 
wonderfully
cost-effective and the behavior changes achieved give real hope.  - diane 

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"Classic Marriage", John Crouch's comprehensive model marriage and 
divorce reform
legislation has been revised and re-released. It is re-posted at: 
  http://www.classicmarriage.com .
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>>Dear Diane,
>>I very much want to get hold of a copy of the text book on love, courtship
>>and marriage by Leon and Amy Kass.  Can you supply the details of name and
>>publisher etc?  Many thanks for your wonderful website.  It's ruining my
>>life because it takes time to scan and download, but there is so much good
>>material I cannot resist it.
>>Moira Eastman
>>Australia

WING TO WING, OAR TO OAR: READINGS ON COURTING AND MARRYING, edited by Amy
A. Kass and Leon R. Kass, University of Notre Dame Press, 2000. (630 
pages!)
Paperback is $15. Hardback (temporarily out of stock) is $25. The book is
available from the publisher, through bookstores, and from www.amazon.com 
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This message is for Elizabeth Marquardt in response to her post asking 
for 
help regarding the connection between parental divorce and youth suicide.

She might want to check with Rainbows for all God's Children Inc., the 
big 
children's grief support organization in suburban Chicago. They publish a 
fact sheet called "A Generation at Risk" which includes this statistic:

63 percent of suicides are individuals from single parent families. The 
source given is the FBI.

The same sheet also contains a 1994 quote from Atilla Turgay MD of the 
American Psychiatric Association: "Separation, divorce and unmarried 
parenthood seemed to be a high suicidal risk for children/adolescents in 
these families for the development of suicidal behavior." 
Don Harting
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>RE: Newlyweds toss out tradition/Marriage rates drop -1/00
>Dear Diane,
>Can we make up our mind here.  I just received this email from you about
>Marriage rates dropping nationwide and yet in your 11/6/99 article you sent
>a letter about Y2K boom of marriages in New York.  So what's up?  Are we up
>or are we down.  Both articles are attached.  Waiting for your response.
>Mark
>P.S. And while I'm on this track, I also noticed in your 11/6/99 article
>that you mentioned a long interview about marriage educators being prefered
>over marriage therapists. I would like to see the interview. The reason you
>ask? Because I am spending some $30,000 to become a marraige and family
>therapist to help people with marraige and family problems.  Sounds like I
>should just throw this education in the toilet and start over with truck
>driving school.  What say you?
>Mark Baker
Mark,
These are not "my" articles - the purpose of this newsletter is to send
along to the list articles pertinent to our focus.  Glad you are
paying attention and notice that journalists and the public are 
confused...
(I'm going to a conference next week that's asking "IS there a marriage 
movement?"
Hmmmmm.....WHAT do you think I'll say?)
I think, however, that a Y2K spurt "Honey, let's get married in 2000, 
wouldn't that
be neat!?" - does not a trend make.  As to your career, it wouldn't hurt 
you
to learn both approaches - no one says that marital therapists can't also
teach marriage and family skills.  It is true, however, that we don't need
heart surgeons to teach diet, exercise and smoking cessation classes. And 
maybe
learning how to drive a truck is good back up.   I'm 
not sure what interview you are talking about.  Contact me after I get
this program to bed and maybe I can help you search for it.  

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